Dear Sam,
First of all you need to love you. If you have no confidence, a guy will find you needy, clingy and whiny.
Spend some time and energy into improving your self relationship; do things and achieve objectives. This will give you a sense of reward and self satisfaction. Learn a new thing, volunteer yourself and time to the elderly or the inform, set an athletic goal (run a 3 minute mile within a month) and achieve it.
Make you life a wonderful thing and you will be the wonderful person people will want to hang out with.
Make your life a whine fest and no one will want to be with you, not even you!
Good luck to you, what a wonderful opportunity, you can begin today! Set a goal you can do today.... offer to help a stranger.
2006-12-20 04:47:37
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answer #1
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answered by answer annie 5
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First off, you will never get self-esteem by wanting to do it because you want to get a guy; because you want to do it for someone else. You have to want to do it for you, regardless of anyone else around you. Part of your low self-esteem comes from needing other people; needing to please other people. You need to have the attitude, not just outwardly, but a true feeling from inside yourself, that you can live without that guy and that you are happy with yourself.
Self-esteem comes from knowing, absolutely knowing, that you are as good as everyone else. That no one else is better than you, whether it's the President of the United States, Angelina Jolie or the head cheerleader at your high school. You deserve to be treated equally and as soon as people see that you demand respect, they will "see" you. And, demanding respect doesn't come from angry words or angry actions, it comes from holding your head high, from being a good person and treating others how you would want them to treat you. Seriously! Every time you start feeling less important, just remind yourself that all those "cool" people do the same things you do. They go to the bathroom just like you, they put on their socks and underwear just like you, they probably sing and talk to themselves just like you. Everything you do in your daily life, so do they. You are as good as them. Stand tall. Look proud. Look people in the eye. Smile often. Laugh outwardly. Ask everyone you meet how they are doing and be interested in their lives. Make others feel important and they will notice you and, in doing so, it will make you feel important.
2006-12-20 05:05:11
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answered by Venice Girl 6
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Sweetie, why would you want to force someone to like you? If this guy isn't showing any interest move on, if you have to force or talk him into it then it won't last. Attraction between two people has to be natural and free flowing. And besides you don't NEED a guy to make you a beautiful person, you were beautiful the day God created you in your Mother's womb and no one can take that away from you. Look in the mirror everyday and just say "God did not create any junk, he created me, and I am not junk, I am a jewel in His crown and I deserve the best." Hang in there someone will come along that deserves you.
2006-12-20 04:48:26
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answered by Scooter Girl 4
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The easiest and quickest way to look better is to smile. Girls are 10 times more attractive when they are smiling. Don't overdo the makeup either.
Don't wear clothes that make you look slutty, or he will think you are. Modest, trendy clothes (but not prude) show him that you respect yourself and will help him to respect you.
Don't be overly bubbly. It will make you seem fake, which is definitely a turn-off.
Most of all, make sure you enjoy yourself. If you can't enjoy yourself around him, then he's not right for you, but if you are having fun, then people around you (him) can have fun, and people who are having fun are more relaxed. This makes it easier for him to notice you in a good way.
2006-12-20 05:44:59
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answered by smartypants 2
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By your description, I think you are beautiful, I would most definitely let you date my brothers! You have low esteem? Almost everybody does! You just need to look in the mirror and see your beauty and focus on everything else good about you! If you think you don't have anything good about you, you should reconsider, it sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders! Just believe in yourself. I hope your self-esteem soars!
2006-12-20 05:06:54
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answered by Chey M 4
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Try stopping negative thoughts about yourself with nice ones. When you are feeling really down treat yourself to a treat mabey buy some cosmetics or an ice cream or something else you really want. Good luck.
2006-12-20 04:43:17
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answered by camillehortensiazajac 1
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Love yourself first. Guys won't like a girl unless she is confident and loves herself (but don;t be cocky).
To help, excersise or just look at yourself and think positively.
2006-12-20 04:45:42
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answered by Anonymous
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the best thing to do is get a make over. it Willl make him look at you because you will be looking different and plus your self esteem will get a boost because then you wil know tat u r looking good. try it.
2006-12-20 05:09:01
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answered by ashi 2
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don't try so hard, guys will go after a girl who they think is not paying attention to them...
2006-12-20 04:45:41
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answered by jstrmbill 3
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i love u
2006-12-20 04:51:06
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answered by febin p 1
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