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2006-12-20 04:22:17 · 21 answers · asked by lizeth_in_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-20 04:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me, "not sure" = "no" or at least "not yet."
It is good for me to know what my motivations for sex are. If it is to keep, manipulate or to control a person, I will choose not to have sex.
If we are both consenting adults free of any other relationship commitments and I am not sure but still attracted, I would do some self-searching to uncover why I have reservations.
Honestly, I have rarely been in the situation where I liked and was attracted to a person but not sure about having sex unless I was going against my own values or myself in some way.
In addition to liking a person and having an attraction, I need to have established some level of trust and intimacy. I surely don't have enough time or energy to have sex with every person I like and am attracted to.
This is my personal answer and is right for me right now. Each person is free to make his own choice based on who s/he is.
"To thine own self be true!"
2006-12-20 12:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning whether or not to have sex with someone then it is best not to have sex with them. There are many risk involved with having sex. Have you heard of HPV virus? HPV is a type of STD (sexually transmitted disease) that can be obtained through sex or even skin contact. If a person has HPV then they are at a very, very high risk of getting cervical cancer. Would you want to risk getting HPV by having sex with someone that you are not totally committed to? There are many other STD's that can occur also.
I told my daughter and her friends that if they aren't ready to take care of a child and have a lifelong commitment with someone then they are not ready to have sex with anyone. Pregnancy can happen even when wearing a condom.
Think twice about this. Even think three and four times but do not have sex if you aren't ready. If someone forces you or makes you feel bad because you aren't ready to have sex with them then they aren't even worth dating.
2006-12-20 12:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by bethany g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ruin a good friendship with a sexual relationship? Get to know each other really well first. Sex determines very little about picking Number One. Don't have children until you can be married, have a home and not be so financially stressed.
In today's society, people sleep around and get divorced from each other before they are even married. STD's follow shortly thereafter.
2006-12-20 12:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I liked someone, and I wasnt a VIRGIN, As long as I've been dating them for at LEAST 1 month, Id have sex. Why not?? Its not like you are saving yourself for marriage if You've already done the deed before!
2006-12-20 12:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you just make the choice that you will not have sex until marriage, the way its suppose to be... then you never have to worry.
I waited. I was 32 yrs old. Trust me........WAIT. Besides, it IS a commandment and one we will be accountable for one day.
Stay pure-
2006-12-20 12:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you a bed jumper?? Do you just hop into bed with anyone if you just like them????? OMG,..... what ARE you thinking. Are you into the numbers game???? I'm sad for you, sweetie.
But this is a joke question, right??? HAHAHA
2006-12-20 12:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if your ready..if you are NOT SURE then your not ready! if you really like him you dont want to give it up to early b/c he will think it was too easy to get you so he may not be a sinterested anymore!.....besides that fact if he really likes you he will wait! relationships are not based on sex!
2006-12-20 12:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thinking about giving yourself to someone just because you like them? Maybe you should get to know him first, then see where that leads you.
2006-12-20 12:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try having sex with them if an opportunity presented itself, and then it would be easier to figure out if I wanted to continue with it.
2006-12-20 12:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enough information? Firstly, are you married? If so, of course not. If your single, you need to be comfortable with what you are about to do.
2006-12-20 12:39:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋