My older brother is comming to town for a hoildays but his ex-wife is here and she told him if he wanted to his his two daughters he would have to sit in her home with them now my brother has been re-married for six years and has two more children by hi current wife what can. I tell him or suggest he can do
2006-12-20 04:16:06 · 10 answers · asked by summer d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesn't have to let her make the decision on how he see's his kids unless it is in writing. someone needs to tell her to think how her children are going to feel in this situation. she needs to do whats best for her kids not her. tell your brother to do what he feels will make his childre have a happy and wonderful holiday.
2006-12-20 04:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by lmw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a surprise visit? Holidays need to be planned for in advance so the kids are not pulled between the parents. If he has been six years since the divorce it should be spelled out on his and her schedule is. It sounds like it might be a control issue but it hard to tell from your question. The best way is not let the kids become the rope in a very old game of tug of war. Good luck remember the kids have the right to love both parents equally.
2006-12-20 05:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's probably hurt and sometime women go through that I mean i know it's destroying your relationship but your boyfriend needs to be dealing with that not you. He needs to deal with her on a need to know and kid bases. I mean you and him both are going to have to deal with her for the rest of your live if both of you are planning to get married. I mean tell your boyfriend he need to fix whatever is broke and if he have to send her to the voice-mail every time she call and check his voice-mail right after to make sure it not important. This way it would keep down confusing a little. Good luck, it will stop eventually she's just hurt and really not trying to understand that he's with someone else and getting married. But in the same he needs to handle her that the only way its going to work.
2016-05-23 00:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the home of his original children. It's their house- why should they have to leave their own home on a cold winter day to make it easier on their dad, who lives with his NEW kids out of town and will visit his OLD kids?
Does anybody do what's right for the kids these days, or is it all about getting one over on the ex's or pleasing the new wives, or doing whatever makes you feel good, or scouring the court order to see who's right and who's wrong??? Do what's right for the kids, even if it means having to put yourself out for a couple of hours!!!
For all we know, your brother is a drunk who skipped town and hooked with with some other woman to created even more children. There might be a REASON why she wants the kids in her home- especially if your brother randomly comes to town as and when he pleases. When was the last time he saw his old kids? How often does he visit them? Do they ever go to his new home? Does she have sole custody? Does he ever threaten her? And where did he plan on taking these kids once he arrived in town? To IHOP for the afternoon?
2006-12-20 04:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depending if there is a court order..first he should be following the court order.
The ex can NOT tell him where and WHEN his time with his kids are.
He should pick them up and do what EVER he wants to. That is his rights.
The ex sounds like a CONTROL FREAK. She needs to get over it and realize that she has children with him and SHARE them. Once the divorce papers are signed - there is NO MORE CONTROL.
GEESH!
Also, if there is no order - he might be able to get an emergency hearing and GET a court order.
2006-12-20 04:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he has custody he can see them when and where he wants. if not there is nothing he can do about it. just tell him if comes down to that, he should go see them with the whole family, don't leave anyone out, and maybe the ex wife will end up being the one feeling uncomfortable in her own house.
2006-12-20 04:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should actually be a court order specifying what they are supposed to do when parents live 100 miles apart or more. Tell him to look at his divorce papers and it will say and then follow them while he is in town, call the cops if she doesn't consent.
2006-12-20 04:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She can't tell him that if he has visitation rights. Courts make those decisions. If visitation are unsupervised, she can't say crap about it.
I would call my lawyer.
2006-12-20 04:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you invite everyone to your house
2006-12-20 04:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him honesty is the best policy
2006-12-20 04:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by michelle d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋