My husband won't touch me, WHY? I am a good woman, he says he loves me, but he won't attempt to make love to me? Has he lost interest in me? I know hes not cheating, he works all the time. Hes a work alohic.. or hes home passed out on the couch. Plzzzzzzz serious answers ...
2006-12-20 04:09:54 · 17 answers · asked by Hi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the same problem pretty much. My man works all the time and we have sex maybe once a week if I'm lucky. It is frustrating and I would love to see some of the answers people come up with.
2006-12-20 04:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not suggesting that he's cheating...but I would be very leary. Maybe you guys need to re-connect. Try taking a weekend get away and focus on communication vs. the physical aspect. Let him know your feeling this way and maybe suggest both of you go to counseling together. There is absolutely nothing wrong with counseling...it doesn't mean the marriage is going to end. Sometimes we need a mediator to help us address or get to the root issue. My concern is that when a man starts working more and more, avoiding his wife, and avoiding intimacy then somthing is not right....not saying cheating but something. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 04:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man is in his sexual peak around age 25. And a woman is in her peak around 40. This is a big difference. You should seek counseling he needs to realize that a woman has emotional and physical needs that go beyond financial security.
2006-12-20 05:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by theedge56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughy. You could try adding toys to your playtime. Try wearing sexy outfits. Spike his drinks with a little spanish fly, lol. You can try talking to him. If he has a medical problem he's not wanting to tell you about, maybe you could scheduel a dr.'s appt. together. Viagra can really help if that's the problem. They also make viatamins that are suppose to naturally enhance a man's sexual desire, they are at wal-mart. Communication is definatley the key here.
2006-12-20 04:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should bring it up to him that this is bothering you. Ask him what's the problem? sometimes, busy lives just interfere w/romance at home. being a workaholic, he's too tired to even touch you. So, let him know what's up & how the both of you can make things better & make time for each other =)
2006-12-20 04:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is just tired from working so much. When my husband is tired or stressed out it is hard for him to have sex. You need to talk to him about it. Don't nag him about it or he will shut you out. Tell him how this makes you feel and ask him to help you understand what he is feeling.
2006-12-20 05:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by DDee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you need to find out if he is at work, if it turns out he is working , than it may not be a me problem, most women just assume it is them, not there mate, first of all, if he is middle thirty's to late fifty's, , it may be tress, if this is the case, maybe he is thinking something is very wrong with himself and you may not think of him as , so much of a man , you know you need to reassure him that you are there for him and not make sex such a issue, romance him, so he can relax, let him know that he still attracts you , just because he is who he is, talk him into taking a few days off , and do so meting he relay likes top do, let it be all about him , then let the mood take its place , set back and see what a Little love and affection can do , , let me know who it works out , i will be watching out for you , chippett
2006-12-20 04:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by chipett_45 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly answer these questions: Are you the same woman he married? Do you dress the same for him? Have you gained weight? Do you take care of yourself? Do you get a baby sitter and make time for each other? Was he a workalholic before marriage? Is he cheating?
Lots and lots of reasons for this, none of them pretty to accept.
2006-12-20 04:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he's tired?
Take the initiative. Everybody always expects the OTHER to take the initiative. Just take it. Try to drive him wild.
Sometimes going to extra mile will get you many more miles returned to you in the future.
2006-12-20 04:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, I have no respect for people like him.
Talk to him seriously, like; What's Up!
When a guy does something like to you, not touching or sexual interest, seriously insult his manhood. Sure he will get pissed, but will also try to prove you wrong.
2006-12-20 04:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋