What do you think of the "other woman"?

Question

I have a friend whose husband had an affair last year. They are a work in process. They always had a great marriage, until he had to go with his job to New Orleans after Katrina. He was gone for 9 months. After he came home, he confessed and has been very remorseful since then. They are actually doing very well. The problem is the other woman. She will not believe that it is over, even though they are 850 miles away. She made it a point to call my friend on her job and tell her in explicit detail about their sex lives, she called their house and cell phones demanding that HE LOVED HER AND MISSED HER, and was only home because he felt sorry for his wife. I have heard him curse her to no return, but she will not give up. They had their numbers changed, and my friend changed jobs. She has now resulted in sending letter after letter, which they refuse&return to sender. Is there anything they can do to stop this? Is there any laws?

Answer 1

First, I give your friend credit for makingher marrige work. If more people thought that way, there would be less people in divorce court and less children living in single parent homes.

On to crazy chick.
Tell them to keep the letters, then go to the court house and get a restaining order on her. THe letters are proof of her actions and they should stand up in court.

Answer 2

This is what happens when one cheats on his spouse and gets the fatal attraction. Hopefully, he will learn a very valuable lesson. What looks good is not always good for you. She obviously felt as many females do, that a married man who cheats is to be had and will be had with the sex. I would say simply continue to ignore her, and if it continues, I would get an attorney to send her a letter that if she continues she will be charged with harassment. How did she get the home number and job numbers. This is scary, I would be wondering if she is just sick enough to drive the 850miles and show up at the front door. Oh my goodness, now his wife is dealing with the after math of his selfishness. Unreal. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 3

Well, as much as I despise the other woman, the husband brought this on himself and his family. This is what happens when peoples emotions get played with. People arent robots, they have feelings. This woman was led to believe this man cared about her for 9 months. He played the game. She is hurt and in denial, so she's taking it out on the wife. It'll go away with time. He probably never gave the "other woman" any kind of explanation, just up and left and said he was going back to his wife. She needs closure. Cussing her to no end is only going to make matters worse. She's a woman scorned. Affairs of the heart are nothing to play with . This is a hard learned lesson for the husband.

Answer 4

my partner and I are not married but we had a problem like this with a woman he had seen on the side.

She would instant message, send emails and then went to sending letters to our home.

I finally contacted an attorney who sent out a letter to both her and her employer (she was stupid enough to send things from work with the company logo and name on it). It went into detail about the situation and let them know if this did not stop that she and the employer would be named in a stalking and harrassment lawsuit.

That was back in February of 2003 and we have never heard from her again.

It doesn't matter who's fault it is, the boyfriend/husband or the girlfriend/wife, you do not have to be a victim !

Answer 5

That woman sounds like a stalker! There are laws on the books to address such behavior. Your "FRIEND" is paying dearly for his idiotic actions of the past.

He better lick his wife's boots for the rest of his life and make sure she knows he will never do anything so stupid again. They should contact the police and get a lawyer to get this taken care of.

They know where she lives so it would not be too difficult for the cops or courts to get with her.

Answer 6

First, they need to keep the letters as avidest then they have to get a lawyer. There are laws against harassment. I worked in a law office long ago and I do believe that that can get a restraining order against her that means no phone contact or letters of any kind, but they do need the letters as prove.

Answer 7

my ex's ex did this for a while, he would do the whole cuss her out thing, and eventually ended up getting back with her at my expense.

they can put a restraining order on her, so she can't have any contact. the police or whoever would probably say they have to try to fix it on their own since she is not physically there to harass them, but being that they changed numbers and jobs and all that and nothing is changing they might be able to get one.

or the husband could file a sexual harassment suit.

Answer 8

It takes two to tango. So he got this woman in the sack, used her, made her a bunch of promises.... just to dissapear and pretend that "nothing" happened??

I'm sorry but the husband in question is no victim. He fooled around and then dissapear. Obvioulsy the other person is desperatly trying to get him back and refuses to believe that is over. She is trying to get back at him by harrasing him and ruin his marriage.

Call the police and tell them that they are recieving harrasing letters. You don;t need to put up with this, being cheated on is hard enough!

Good luck

Answer 9

I don't know. They could call the police, and go from there. There are laws against harrassment, but I don't know how they can be enforced in the situation when the person is not physically there. I think, your friend's husband made a poor choice of "the other woman". He certainly is paying dearly for it.

Answer 10

Wow, it seems like he doesn't even need a punishment from his wife because the other woman is doing it for him. I bet he wishes he never had that affair! If his wife leaves, he probably won't want to go back to that crazy woman either. So first he had two women, then he'll have zero... hmm tough luck.