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Ive been with my current boyfriend for 6 months - He is such a sweetheart, Im his first real love. He treats me like a princess and my kids too. Does everything for us.....My kids dad I was with 9 years wants to be with me us, which I love him and he is my kids dad - Hes not as romantic, But he is a man...My boyfriend is inscere, Which I do not like....I do not want to hurt ethier and confuse my kids....

2006-12-20 03:31:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

21 answers

Stop the nonsense, you're confusing your kids. Dump them both, get over your kids dad, take care of your kids for a while, figure out what you want, then start dating again.

2006-12-20 03:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Kids father.
OK maybe I missed something here. You were with a man that you did and still love for 9 years and he is a responsible man and is a good father.
Was this an affair? Why do you have a boyfriend?
You want to leave a good responsible man that you love and is a good husband and father so you can be with a sweetheart who is either insincere or insecure I don't know which word you were writing.
Sounds to me like you should let your kid's father have the kids and raise them. He is a responsible adult. Go be a child with your boyfriend and then 10 years from now post a question called "I made a big mistake?"

2006-12-20 03:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1 1

So did you separate from your kid's father or are you dating them both?
You have to take time out and see what is best all around, which is the stable man of them both, of course your boyfriend is romantic NOW. it has only been six month, who knows how he will be in a year or two. plus, if you are his real love you might not be the last. Take a break from both, do some thinking, make sure your kids father has a stable relationship with them, that is most important here.
Good Luck

2006-12-20 03:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2 0

Try putting your own feelings aside for a second and do what's right for the kids. I'm sure they're already confused and are tired of your love life drama. You're so concerned about hurting these 2 grown men- aren't you concerned about hurting the children when you force them to suffer your indecisions and little romantic fantasies? Let's see.. insecure boyfriend of 6 months .. or children's dad of 9 years..... you're not a little princess so stop expecting to be treated like one. You're a grown woman with children to raise and children need a stable, secure home with 2 parents!

2006-12-20 03:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Well if your not with the father of your children there must be a reason seeing how you have a different BF. I guess if you love you children's father then why are you not with him now? I would be insecure if I was your BF too. You openly admit you love the father of your children on this advice site. Don't you think your BF can tell that also. In my opinion your not being fair to your BF or the kids. You should have decided what you wanted BF or father of your kids before you even got your kids involved with your BF. Sounds to me like your getting a total big head on yourself about you being the first real love for your BF and totally taking advantage of that. You should break it off with your BF because he deserves better than you. You need to go hook up with your kids daddy and stop taking advantage of this poor guy. If your kids daddy isn't what your looking for either I hear myself asking why did you open your legs and pop out kids with him. To me that would confuse your kids more than this BF issue. I guess you have shown everyone here that the old saying first comes love, then comes marriage and then comes baby in the baby carriage has been totally corrupted by people like you. Just kills me that you even said I don't want to confuse my kids..LOL wake up and listen to yourself. Your life in general is confusing to them already..LOL...OMG some people I swear.

2006-12-20 03:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1 0

stay with your boyfriend. there is a reason why you split up with your kids' father and if you think you can solve that you are wrong. things will be alright for a couple of months and then you will start to see why you weren't with him anymore. on the other hand, this guy who isn't even the father of your children is treating them extremely well, and you too. he loves you all as part of his family, and that is hard to find these days. who cares if he's a litte immature now, he'll grow up. and really, he is mature for supporting you and your kids like he does. your kids' father is just that: your kids' father. that is not an excuse to get back with him. it really will end up hurting your kids later on, expecially if you don't work out, and they have to go through the whole split again. and you will devastate your boyfriend. trust me, i've been him, i know exactly how it feels to lose someone to their ex just because they think they can work it out for the kids.

oh and another thing, just because someone is not their biological father doesn't mean he can't be a father. it's one thing to be a sperm donor, it's another to be a daddy. my dad died when i was 3, so i never really knew him. then my stepdad came along, the best father you could ask for. same thing im going through right now, my ex who left me left me pregnant. i don't want him to have anything to do with our son. i will find someone out there who will treat him with respect and love him as their own, not like his useless piece of sh*t father. and if your boyfriend is willing to do this, then go for it.

2006-12-20 03:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0 0

Your kids are already confused because you didn't follow the first rule of dating. Finish one relationship before starting another one.

2006-12-20 03:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0 0

Its nice that you are worried about your kids feelings, but its your relationship.

You need to pick one.
Picture them in a boat with an anchor tied to each of them on opposite side of the boat. You can't save both. They are both tossed into the water and sinking. Who do you save?
One
Two
Three
If you didn't decide by "One" they both are dead.
If you did pick one, then be an adult and stick with it.

2006-12-20 03:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0 0

the kids dad,, i grew up without one most of the time, when got older i grew attactched to my dad and never went to see my mom,, the kids are more important, they will move out one day then you have the rest of your life,, do everything for the kids,, you had them

2006-12-20 03:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i would choose the one i felt most safe with, the one i could rely on in times of need. wouldn't want to pick someone who wasn't sincere, but wouldn't want to go back into a relationship filled with troubles either.

2006-12-20 03:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

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