i fell pregnat with a man i was seeing for a bout a month we didnt plan it and couldnt bring my self to abort the baby but my hormones could not stand him every time he came near me i would throw up or feel irritated so he had enough and he told me he had no time for responsibilities in an argument two weeks later he say he cant live without me , he wants to marry me nad maove in with me . I am asking my self what he wants but i cant figure it out. does any one have a clue?
2006-12-20 03:21:34 · 21 answers · asked by sweet lips 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As you are hormonal do not rush into any decisions that will dramatically affect you or your baby.....
You cant be sure what is going on with him...maybe he is just telling you what he thinks you want to here (marriage..father to his child etc.) Don't get sucked into the ideal that you want as it may not be what it seems - remember that most children are better off with parents that are happy rather than staying together just for their sake.
He is not good for your pregnancy as you are becoming ill so take this time to have some space and think about your future - hopefully you will make the right decision for you.
2006-12-20 03:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Brown_Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! No matter what people say to you now, if you decide to have the baby there are many places you can go for help even if your family is upset with you temporarilly. You may want to consider adoption if you are against abortion. But as for the man, he clearly feels guilty and trying to show some "responsibility" just for the time being so he doesn't look bad. But he doesn't understand the many obligations he will have in marraige. Honestly you don't need the complications of a pregnancy AND a man that annoys you. Plus, you probably don't even love this man if you're only been seeing him for a month. There are things you might not even know about him. I just don't believe it's a good idea to marry him and then slowly find out things about him that you may or may not like.
Lastly, if he marries you out of obligation, he may eventually feel a resentment towards you and your baby for "trapping" him. So let him go, you'll be much better off.
2006-12-20 03:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you messed up once with an unplanned pregnancy, don't compound it by making another hasty mistake. Right now concentrate on making sure your pregnancy is healthy and put all other decisions on hold until after the baby is born. Your reaction right now to this guy, the throwing up & irritation, could just be early-pregnancy illness, maybe not, time will tell. And his notion to marry and move in might be his way of accepting part of his responsibility, but probably not the best idea right now, especially the marriage part. And a suggestion for the future: birth control!!
2006-12-20 03:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hormone that makes you vomit when pregnant. You must think very hard about the fact that you are going to be a mom and if you can handle it yourself if you are going to be a single mom, do you have family and friends that will help you out? what about the money issue? babies are very expensive. Now. if you still have time You might want to think about this in a different way: A child with a man will not only change your life completely but will also link yourself to this man FOREVER. whether you marry him or not. Are you ready for that? perhaps terminating the pregnancy is not such a bad idea. it does NOT make you a bad person. But if you decide to keep the baby, remember, you and this man are forever linked, married or not. By the way, make sure you try ginger ale and dry crackers in the morning. it helped me with when I had my son... Good luck
2006-12-20 03:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to marry you genuinely then he can wait. the truth is time is the best judge on any situation at this point he sounds like he really does not know what he wants and he may be doing this because he feels obliged of the fact that it is his child but the main thing is do you want to live the rest of your life with someone who you are not sure how he feels about you?
best thing wait it out. let him go through the whole pregnancy,hormonal experience with you and after the baby is born if he still wants to stay and be a family then keep him. otherwise dont jump to first and make a mistake that you will live to regret for the rest of your life.
bless.
2006-12-20 03:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by shiro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either one of you know what you are doing. I feel sorry for the unborn child. This child will never have a chance to have a normal family life. You don't even have yourself together, how are you going to raise a baby? Did you ever hear of birth control? How can you be so irresponsible? Don't marry this guy, he doesn't love you. If you are going to have this baby, you need to grow up you only have about 7 months left to become a responsible mother.
2006-12-20 03:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man, and he is feeling guilty for knocking you up. Totally the wrong reason to get married. He should bare responsibility for this child, but marrying you is not required. Keep dating, maybe even live together, and see if you two can make it. DON"T GET MARRIED JUST FOR THE KID. Oh, and try buying some condoms.
2006-12-20 03:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, don't. A commitment like marriage should be well thought out and something you do without reservation. You don't know this man very well at all. If you do fall in love, you can always marry later when you know everything you need to know.
2006-12-20 03:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychological, why you throw up is because you do not probably have any feelings for him.He might be in love with you and the best way for you to find out is to give him a chance and get to know him better.Maybe knowing him a little will change your mood and deep your relationship towards him.
2006-12-20 03:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by cajadman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. tell him you want to stay friends for a while first and get to know each other. a month isnt very long and your hormones will be all over the place while your pregnant so you could want him one day and not the next. if he loves you as he says he does he'll accept anything you want...
2006-12-20 03:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋