I've heard the statistic that men think about sex like every 5 seconds or something like that. But shouldn't this stop once you get married? I've been married for a year and a half and I still have these thoughts. I have never cheated on my wife though.
2006-12-20 03:17:44 · 32 answers · asked by Sid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a wife I know that my husband and all men at that have the thoughts about pretty much every women they see... If you find her attractive is when your thoughts start to run wild.. but perfectly normal! Its our animal instinct. males are suppose to worry about spreading there seed, that is how we reproduce and are sure to continue to... The key to this is that we are different then any other animal in the kingdom because we have reasoning. As long as you keep your priorities straight and don't disrespect your wife I think you will do just fine. And when I say don't disrespect I mean just b/c you know this is normal is not a reason to do it with out thinking of how it makes your spouse feel inside. Just continue to remind yourself what you find sexy about your wife.
good luck!
2006-12-20 05:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck no....it's normal...and don't believe your wife doesn't look at other men...and I've been told it's every 45 seconds we think of sex. As I have said several times in these columns, it's like being on a diet and going into a great place to eat...just because you're on a diet, that doesn't mean you can't look at the menu...you can't order everything on it.
Believe me, I'm almost 60, love my wife dearly and have never cheated on her...and I've had the opportunities. But, about the only thing that has changed over the years is that the "other" women I might look at, are not the 20-30ish group, but rather more in their 40's and up...and they're still beautiful & sexy.
2006-12-20 03:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by mottthedog 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, i don't agree with any of this. Your a married man & should not have thoughts about other women sexually. I don't think your wife would think it's normal either. Put yourself in her shoes, what if it were reverse? and that your wife was having sexual thoughts about other men? you don't like it do you? and don't even say it's o.k. with you just to defend your sexual thoughts about other women. It's not right! You've only been in your marriage for a year and a half, you shouldn't be thinking about sex so much, especially with other women. Please have some respect for yourself and your wife (not that you already don't) but you know what i mean, at least act on it (respect). You should be more focused on your future together, thinking positive, and more focused on your career. Having these thoughts will just end up confusing you in the long run and might even cause problems between the both of you. So my suggestion is, if your having these thoughts PLEASE GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF, control yourself, because NO, IT IS NOT NORMAL. People who think about sex every 5 seconds usually have no lives or have nothing better to do than to just fantasize about something that's not even real. It's best you slip your mind back into reality.
2006-12-20 03:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No its not unusual but if you have extramarital sex then your marraige is of no point at all. But dont have sex with anyone else bacuse you are a married guy now. Marraige is the most sacred thing a man & woman can ever share. Whatever you do with your wife is fine since you arent committing a sin. But even thinking about having sex with someone other than your wife is a sin.
2006-12-20 03:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by mustafa_burhani52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal, you're not broken. I've been married for 12 yrs, and still think about women. Your wife probably thinks about other men. The only problem is when we act on these thoughts.
2006-12-20 03:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as you only think about it it's OK. Men think about sex and women all the time. Just because you are married has nothing to do with it. It's all part of being a man. We have something in us that make us think about sex and women all the time.
2006-12-20 03:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What up Curious! My name is Big Momma KI I'm not a fellow but I can help answer your question. First off the feelings you are having are normal now I can tell you that "You can always look at the Menu just as long as you don't Buy. As also these thoughts that you are having are completely natural I mean your wife can't stop your thoughts you are in titled to think about stuff just as long as you don't act upon your reactions because in the bible it states that no man should never commit adultery because it is a sin and you don't want to do that do you because if you sin the wager for sin is death.But let me tell you something honey you can control your thoughts because that's nobody but Satan trying to control you and pull you closer and closer to him.So baby please honor your vowels to the one you said I DO to.
2006-12-20 03:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Big Momma KI 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know of men who have been married 35 years, and still like to look and flirt with the ladies. Personally, I think it's in grained in us and would be more worried if you didn't think about women or sex frequently.
2006-12-20 03:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would it stop? That is nuts. You think there is some chemical change that occurs when you sign the marriage license that turns off the horny gene? Give me a break. If you aren't dead, and by the way being married is not the same as being dead, then you will think about other women, lots of them. Love and sex are not the same.
2006-12-20 03:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't know about every 5 seconds but yes you do still have those thoughts and honestly, once you've gotten somewhat accustomed to being with your girl those thoughts turn to someone else. no those thoughts never do stop, they may go away for a while but they'll continue to come back to haunt you.
keep your thoughts to yourself though, that's where the real problems begin, and don't allow your thoughts to guide you or get you in circumstances that you don't need to be in. i wish the thoughts would go away though; it'd be nice ...
2006-12-20 03:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋