I'm the mother of a beautiful 11 month old baby girl. She was adopted when she was born but I told my friends that she had died in the hospital so they wouldn't worry about me. I'm a sophomore in high school and I would like to know how to tell them the truth. I'm moving away soon and can't bear to keep this from them much longer!!!
2006-12-20 03:17:23 · 11 answers · asked by lilyamongthorns09 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I wouldn't even want to tell after i said the baby died. Why were you ashamed of adoption?
I could never make up a story saying my own kid died when they hadn't, i think doing things like that will cause something to happen.
I would just keep that to yourself.
2006-12-20 03:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are moving away, why do they really need to know? You will make more friends on your way that you can be honest with. Why did you think telling them the baby died instead of that you gave it up would make them not worry about you. Do they not worry that you are only a sophmore and have suffered the grief of loosing a child? If you don't want to be remembered as a psycho or liar, I say keep it to yourself and move on with your life.
2006-12-20 03:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Ro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with them alone and tell them ASAP. Not at school, for instance, where all can hear. Be prepared for them to be angry because they might (think how you would feel about being lied to), but they'll come around if you all are friends. Apologize for lying, of course. Just be honest about everything and it will be ok.
Be strong and confident about your decision. You made that decision because it was best for you and the baby. No one should look down on you for that and don't listen to anyone who does. Adoption is a very responsible and noble choice.
2006-12-20 04:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by tcdrtw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you didn't want them to worry about you, so you lied about giving the baby up for adoption. If they are truly your friends then they will understand. Personally I think I would have been more worried about my friend having a baby who died than I would be if I knew she gave it up for adoption.
2006-12-20 04:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are leaving soon, get them all together for a dinner or snack time to hang out before you go and lay it out on the table. Just be honest with them and tell them sorry for lying, but at the time you thought it was the best answer for them. I'm sure they will understand. Unless they've been in your shoes, its impossible to know how to handle it.
2006-12-20 03:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really can't keep it from them then tell them... If they're your true friends they will understand. But you'll have to be totally open and honest with them and answer all the questions they might have. You should have to apologize for giving up your baby because you felt like you had to, but you should apologize to your friends... if they dont accept that, then like I said, they are not your true friends. Good luck
2006-12-20 03:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Caleigh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you put your child up for adoption because anyone who would lie to their friends and say their child died doesn't deserve to be a parent. Maybe you should grow up and start telling the truth. And stop having sex until you can learn to live with the consequences. Sorry to be harsh, but that's the reality of it, sweetie.
2006-12-20 05:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right before you leave get your friends together and just tell them. Make sure your ready to answer all the questions they may have, and let them know that they shouldn't feel awkward talking to you about it.
The more you talk about it the better it will be.
2006-12-20 03:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously don't even know what to tell you. Why would you lie about that. I would be mad for even thinking of feeling sorry for you. Then I would try to understand. I don't know. I just wouldn't expect my friends to make something up like that.
2006-12-20 04:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just tell them and tell them the reason you kept it from them,, tell them how you feel about it now and that you think you made the right decision,
2006-12-20 04:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋