well i just found out yesterday that I was pregnant, I told the father and he wants me to have an abortion the thing is I dont want to have one he isnt a bad person or anything he just said he wants the best for everybody! I just dont know what to do or say to him do you guys know anyways I can change his mind!
2006-12-20 03:08:57 · 11 answers · asked by Tia B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Unplanned pregnancies can be very shocking and the first reaction is to have an abortion because you dont feel mentally or financially ready for a baby. The truth is, no one is ever really ready for a baby, it is very overwhelming, but it alwasy works out somehow. I dont know your situation, but if you dont want to have an abortion dont. You will end up regretting it if you have any doubt to then go on to resent your boyfriend, which is no good. Let it sink with your bf for a few days then start talking about a plan. If you decide to keep the baby chances are he will come around. My fiance wanted me to have an aboriton at first because we aren't "ready" but now i am 7 months pregnant and we are both very excited to meet out baby girl! Best of luck! The desision is yours in the end but make sure it's the one you're most comfortable with because you cant go back in time.
2006-12-20 03:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would consider adoption before abortion. I am all for pro-choice. Its a big decision to havew a baby. I am kind of going through the same thing right now with my sister. She is 7 months, hasnt told the father, financially cant afford it, doesnt want to adopt it and its obviously too late to abort.
If you dont want to abort than dont. Its just that simple. He can not force you one way or the other. Its your body. If he is dead set against having the baby, you probably wont be able to change his mind about an abortion.
Good Luck on the decisions you make!!
2006-12-20 12:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by ea1825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is not an easy decision to make and can be heart wrenching. To condemn someone as a murderer for having an abortion is very harsh and not everybody feels that way. What is wrong to some may be the best choice for someone else. Do what is best for you and do not let others intimidate you with the scare tactics.
Having said that, do not let anyone pressure you to have an abortion if you do not feel that it is the right choice for you.
2006-12-22 12:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Holly V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with an abortion, then don't get one. And don't expect to change his mind - if he's not excited at the prospect of having a baby, then he's not excited. Period. I'm assuming the two of you are young (under 20) - just realize the how difficult it's going to be to have the child if that's what you really want.
2006-12-20 11:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! Sounds just like my boyfriend. I went through that 2 times. and i really do regret having an abortion, its makes you very sad. If you feel in your heart not to give it up then don't. Now I'm pregnant again and I'm not giving it up for nothing. I know people say negative things, but you have to be confident know that you will have a wonderful baby in your life for you to cherish.
2006-12-20 11:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Oh Boy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby, then by all means do so. He may be in shock right now and will come around to the idea later after it kinda settles in. But be prepared that he may want nothing to do with this child. I do hope for the best for you. Please don't go against what you believe and want for someone else.
2006-12-20 11:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is growing inside of YOU not HIM. If you have an abortion just to make him happy, you might live to regret it. Do what YOU feel is best.
2006-12-20 11:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... its crazy to me for you to think about that or even ask that question?? You are thinking of killing your baby because you are not sure it it would be best.... was it for you to lay there with your legs open with no protection... Just so you know that is murder.... please dont do that.. youwill love that baby more than any thing in this world once you have it..PLease I beg you dont even think that...
2006-12-20 11:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by TalonsMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have his okay to keep the baby. It is soley your decision, not his. Do what in your heart you know is right, keep the baby
2006-12-20 11:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that neither of you are ready for a baby. Give him/her up for adoption.
2006-12-20 11:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by don_juan_darko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋