What should I do? I know he loves me too but when emotions get the better of him, he hurts me physically. (not that he beats me up,he pinches me, holds me so tight that my arms get twisted..things of that sort....) help me guys.
I STILL DONT WANT TO BREAK UP WITH HIM. we've been on for 3 years
2006-12-20 03:08:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand that you don't want to break up with him and that's your choice...my best friend is going through the SAME thing but I seen it escalate into something really bad and 2 days ago she was running to my house cuz he was beating her really bad and I was sitting on the couch watching The L word, I heard something slam against my screen door and when I peeped out the window it was her head being slammed! I oped the door and he pushed her forward(right into me) she's a big girl so I fell over and we both fell to the floor. The a-hole just turned around and ran off. She called the police and pressed charges, said she's gonna make him go to Anger management~but I personally don't thinkhe will.He came back to her house last night and socked her in the jaw because she wasn't happy to see him. SHE's STILL with him. I hear her crying or arguing EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!They live 2 doors down from me. Weve been friends for 3 years and it started off with just biting her cheek or squeezing her nipple. SERIOUSLY.
Take care of yourself.
2006-12-20 03:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nik Nak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget about the love and think about it. What would you do if a coworker, friend or stranger physically hurt you in the same way? Once you get that answer then you know what you have to do.
I hope for your safety physically, mentally and emotionally you leave him real soon. Think about it when did he start with this type of behavior and has it gotten more frequent or more aggressive if it hasn't it will. Aggression left unchecked will escalate to the point of danger for you. If you want to give him a piece of advise before you leave then give him a number to an anger management course or a therapist. He needs help to deal with his emotions and aggression but you are not the one to help him with it. It is not ok to be treated this way by anyone. Love yourself, respect yourself and give yourself the best Christmas present ever and leave him before it's too late.
2006-12-20 03:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by benjiandremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like the wind. Leave skid marks. He is showing signs of passive aggressive behavior. You dont want that. He is not going to change. He will keep being a jerk and then apologize afterwards. Everytime he does that, he chips a piece of your self-esteem and heart. It is abuse but not the physical kind which can be just as painful. You are better than that. There are other guys who will treat you so much better!
2016-05-23 00:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts when you do that, then don't do that. You've spent 3 years getting pinched and twisted? He's not going to change. And if you don't stand up for yourself, you're allowing it to continue.
What are you going to do, marry the guy, have children, and teach them it's OK to hurt their boy/girlfriends, too? People who love you don't hurt you, even if they get emotional.
2006-12-20 03:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's not beating you up, but he hurts you. That's abuse. He probably claims he can't control himself, maybe even blames you? You made me so mad I couldn't help it. Sound familiar? Classic abuser.
I understand that you love him, but you need to respect yourself enough to realize you deserve better. Do you find yourself thinking that no matter how miserable you are with him you'd be even more miserable without him? Been there done that, lost him, got over it.
Get out before it gets worse. Fists may not be flying yet, but they will, trust me. Get yourself help and GET OUT.
2006-12-20 03:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get him to go to some sort of anger management program or counseling of some sort, but if that does not work you should really think of what is best for your health and safety, a dear friend of mine had a boyfriend that didnt hurt her to bad. but one day his temper got the better of him and he broke her nose, fractured her skull and she nearly died. so you should always look out for your safety and if you cant get him to stop, you should think about leaving him. remember you dont deserve this so why does it happen - only because you let it. take a stand and get help.,
2006-12-20 03:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by graamkdup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not deserve to be treated bad by someone who tells you they love you I was in that kind of relationship for10 years with my ex the key word is ex yes it was hard to leave because we had children to gather but i did leave you have to get out before it gets worse and believe me it will he parable tells you that you will never find any one that will love you or all kinds of other thinks to break you down emotionally you have to stand up for your self you are worthy to be loved not hurt please leave i bag you because it does get worse i don't want you to be another statistic of spousal abuse were the spouse ends up killing the other one
2006-12-20 03:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you are experiencing pinching, arm twisting, or any other type, abuse is still abuse. your boyfriend needs to find another outlet to express his anger and you need to let him know this before those anger bursts turn into real violence or DEATH. you have seen movies and heard tales of domestic abuse and statistics show that 1 in 10 women are abused each minute. that statistic is skewed because alot of women don't report the abuse or let anyone know. i know because i was once one of these women. by the grace of god i was able to escape the cycle before it got bad. the same man who did those "small" things to me such as pushing and slapping went on to almost kill another young woman 3 years later. my recommendation to you is to pray to your god and then as a song i love says "let go and let god have his way".
2006-12-20 03:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by altimate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then get yourself a good plastic surgeon when he decides to break your nose one day, because abuse escalates, there is no doubt about it, and women like you who love their abusers end up in a morgue sooner or later. If you want to make this work he has to get therapy for his behaviour and work this out, if not, then you have to break up with him before he breaks your face.
Be smart, Good luck
2006-12-20 03:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIT THAT M-F-ER RIGHT BACK!!!! sooner or later that punk is going to really hit you and all you could say is "I love him I still don't want to break up with him. we've been on for 3 years"
2006-12-20 03:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by loohleypoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋