2006-12-20 02:08:41 · 22 answers · asked by ANGEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have no idea
2006-12-20 02:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by curtis w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for a year and a half and am miserable. I married my best friend and it has done nothing but tear us apart. One, I feel that we were too young. If you are in your early twenties, it is too early, you have not experienced the world yet. Life at 30 is so much different than life at 20.
It starts off exciting, then you get comfortable and fight about everything, you both decide you don't want to give in because you want to be stubborn and you become miserable. That's marriage. Your sex life will also suffer. It is probably like the 4th of July in bed now, but that, too, will end shortly after then honeymoon. Foreplay, oral sex, etc., all go out the window once your married.
The biggest thing is to make sure you agree on things like having kids, how you will handle money, how you will divide holidays with your families. Never forget that you marry the family, not just the person!
In today's world, you also should protect yourself by getting a prenup!
2006-12-20 02:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23, a newlywed of 7 months...
I LOVE being married! I get to live with my best friend allll the time. Just last night we were snuggling and talking about how much we enjoy just being "us." There's a constant "glow" about things.
A lot of people will tell you that the first year of marriage is SO hard... well I think that the way to defeat that is twofold. 1) Keep God at the center of all your decisions, so it's not about YOU, but about glorifying God... and 2) Keep all accounts short. In other words, if he does something to hurt or offend you, discuss it right then. More importantly, if YOU do something wrong, be quick to apologize and seek forgiveness.
If you go into marriage with a partner-first attitude, it can be BLISS! Oh, yeah, and the bedroom is pretty darn fun, also! When you're SO in love, making it is AWESOME!
Good luck and God bless!
PS- don't get married just to have sex! that's a bad reason.
2006-12-20 02:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by bluebelly83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 7 years. Marriage is a union shared between a man and a woman where they become one in every aspect of life. They are two halves equaling a whole. Marriage is wonderful but it sure has times of ups and downs. There is no "perfect marriage," because every relationship has problems here and there that arouse arguments. When you find "Mr. or Mrs. Right," you'll know it because you'll feel it in your heart. Yes, you may flirt here and there but you will be dedicated and committed to your spouse. Make sure you are ready before you get married.
2006-12-20 02:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to someone who shares your goals, hopes, dreams, lifestyle, etc. I'd imagine it'd be wonderful.
But with two divorces; from egotistical, abusive-whether me or drugs and alcohol, jerks; under my belt, I'd say its horrible. Though I have faith that its possible for two people to have a happy marriage.
Don't regret the first one at all, he abused drugs, but never lifted a hand to me, but we didn't have the same goal or desires for our marriage. I'd say we were more like best friends, we still tell each other I love you when we call to check on one another every so often.
The second, I guess I've learned alot about what I don't want...but I'd still say that I deeply regret it. He was an alcoholic who eventually turned violent both physically as well as verbally. Not pretty at all. I could care less if I ever hear from him again. I have no ill will toward him, I just do not want him in any aspect of my life anymore...not even as an acquaintance.
2006-12-20 02:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband is my best friend, and we never run out of things to talk about, even after 10 years. We thrive on an honest openly communicative bond, and we still make each other laugh all the time.
It's lovely to have someone there for you no matter what, someone who can cuddle you when you are down, support you when you are stressed, and love you always. And you get to give all that back to them too. We have had our share of tough times, but thankfully they have always made us stronger in the end.
Marriage gives you a companion for life, even after your children are grown. I look forward to spending forever with my husband, and I couldn't live without him.
2006-12-20 03:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's awesome, but it's not always easy. It takes effort. You have to wake up every day and think "what can I do to make my husband/wife's day better". You should always put the other person before yourself and he/she should do the same, but it's kind of against our human nature to do that. If one person is always the giver and the other person is always the taker, it won't work.
It's nice to have someone that you can always talk to and it makes you feel good when you work through the tough times, because you come out stronger on the other side.
Kids make it even better because it's something that only the two of you share.
2006-12-20 02:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by DGS 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on if you marry the right person. For me, it's being with my best friend every day. It's working together to raise our family, it's a partnership in everything. It's loving each other and our kids, and trying (struggling sometimes to be honest) our best to make a good life for all of us.
2006-12-20 02:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by tabithap 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is stupid system invented by people. It just ties up both people to do what they don't want to do. Ihave a BF and we both don'r want to get married. We communicate, love each other. We help others too. We also want to start a family. If marriage was made in heaven, how come all other animal species are not married? Also, if GOD is fair, how come he didn't apply the same rule to all animal species?
2006-12-20 02:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Like a lion trapped inside of a cage.
2006-12-20 02:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Impossible.
2006-12-20 02:26:17 · answer #11 · answered by angelbelle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋