Well my friends boyfrined recently died in a drunk drivin incident, and shes just torn up, Shes not keeping herself on house arrest or nuthin, but she just walks around like a zombie, I know theres nuthin to say, but how would u deal with that in my place and hers
2006-12-20 01:56:38 · 20 answers · asked by Alley M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just make sure you tell her you love her and if she needs anything you are there.
2006-12-20 02:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru a death in the family and all you really can do for her is keep her moving and keep her busy so she doesn't end up isolating herself and sink deeper into a depression. You have to be sly about it though. Words won't help. Just being there and keeping her entertained and moving and a shoulder to cry on when she does let it all out is enough. You really just can't say something brilliant to make it better. Its been two years in my sitution and I am still mourning the loss and still cry atleast once a week over it. Its just a sorrow that will be with her for ever. Just keep her moving and help her keep her life moving so she doesn't forget she still has her life to live
2006-12-20 10:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alley - You just have to give her time and when she needs it, her space. It is very tragic to lose someone so unexpectedly and everyone heals at there own pace.
The best thing you can do now is still be her friend. Keep inviting her out, one day she will say yes! And then those yes' become more frequent. Sometimes showing up with a dinner helps also as she will probably not want to cook or eat at this time.
2006-12-20 10:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by lirtan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Take her to lunch or a movie. The best thing for her right now is your love and kindness. She will snap out of it, but you and her other friends will need to take her along doing the normal things in life so that she can see that life continues. If she questions whether she should or not, remind her that her boyfriend would not want her unhappy, and the best way to honor his memory is to enjoy life again, just as he would want her to.
2006-12-20 10:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by spottedtan5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible and I a so sorry! She definetly needs time to move on but if she does not start to get out of her house in a couple months, she need to talk to professional help. That is the only way that somebody can get help. Good luck. I am so sorry.
2006-12-20 10:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by ollie91rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard but each person grieves in their own way. When my mom died, I wanted to be left alone. All you can do is still call and invite her to things (but please no boy and girl things for awhile). A movie night with the girls at home. everyone bring a movie make some popcorn. Just don't push be patient and let her choose her time.
2006-12-20 10:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold his urn as often as possible or lay flowers at his grave regularly. spend time with his family all you can. put candles around you home to light in his memory. consider starting a fund for needy children. and vow to never allow anyone else take his place in your hear or south of there. fan those smoldering embers of love and keep the flame burning. never give up your commitment. love is only once. never relent when someone sent from Satan comes to you. just hold tighter to his memory and run away from the old devil's temptation. may Jesus protect you and pat Robinson do a TV prayer for you (i will notify him on his TV prayer request hot line). love love love.
2006-12-20 10:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably in agony. She needs to grieve and that has stages. She needs cuddles and to be able to talk. She doesn't need people pretending that nothing has happened. She needs to be able to talk about it freely with someone close. If you are that someone then make sure she knows you will do this if she wants to. It must be a time of such pain and sadness. I expect she gets no sleep. Just be there to comfort her.
2006-12-20 10:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very sad. I'm so sorry for your girlfriend and her boyfriends family. Maybe you could talk to a local MADD chapter so that when your friend is a little better you two could do some volunteer work or outreach that might save someone else's boyfriend.
2006-12-20 10:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by P Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be there for your friend and support her through this difficult time. I know that you don't know what to say or do to comfort her but just be there to lend an ear if she needs to vent or a shoulder for her to cry on. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 10:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that your friend will ever get over the accident. She can move on with her life. It may take time but what she needs right now is a good friend. Always be there for her. Everything will be okay.
2006-12-20 10:00:06 · answer #11 · answered by Hillary N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋