Are you on the "down low"? If so, what stops you from coming out as bisexual or gay?

Question

Another good question from the Doktor. I'm curious about this one myself.

I'm not going to choose best answers for these questions that ask about experiences. But if people want to vote so the potential points don't go to waste that's cool.

Answer 1

It took me a little while to come out as bisexual. Mainly because my school is fool of stereotypical rednecks. Then a guy names Trevor came out of the closet and it started to get me thinking. Finally I decided that I didn't give a crap what anyone else thought and just came out to my friends and then later my family.

I've been a lot happier since then. It feels good to know that you can just be yourself without being judged. However I can sympathise with those who keep their sexuality. I've endured my fair share of harassment since I came out and I can understand others wanting to avoid that, but in the end you just gotta be yourself no matter what others think.

Answer 2

i did not come out while i found out that i became bisexual, sounds like a waste of breathe, yet I did while i became 18 and got here out as gay to my human beings and a few pals. My human beings have been difficult, sat them down and advised them - went extra suitable then i presumed it would, they did not kick me out or disowned me. My pals have been slightly extra handy, some already knew whilst others extremely did not care because of the fact i became the comparable person who I constantly have been, it extremely is in basic terms a be conscious or label not something extra not something much less.

Answer 3

Its the same hostility pagans are shown now,
I was bi during HS and College, but a monogomous bi sexual.
Straight guys first instinct when they hear a girl is bi is
"Oh do you do threesomes?" really every guys fantasy.
but if you are monogomous you are either with a female partner seriously or with a male partner seriously, each have something different to offer in a relationship while women are generally better lovers intimately more compassionate and caring they still lack some things guys have naturally (besides the attached portion of skin between their legs) Men have a way of making a woman feel safe and secure, they still need to work on the whole caring nurturing part but it is there.

Answer 4

I'm out as Bi, so that's not a question I can answer from experience.

However, for certain groups, the hostility toward gay/bi males is extremely intense. So much so that many will remain in the closet, much as many men did in the 50's.

Answer 5

You know its funny because i have been out for like years! I never knew what down low ment till today. And now that I know what it means I have been told by at least 10 people that I have met that they were down low! GEEZE I am the blond queer!

Answer 6

I have often fantasized about being with another woman. But i think it's something that everything thinks. I would like to but i am married and he wouldn't go for that.

Answer 7

when i first came out to myself i was on the down low, i didn't go out because i didn't know where to go and fear of the unknown

Answer 8

my friends know. i'm going to wait until i move out to tell my parents, i want to but they are extremely hostel toward gays, i know they will either kick me out, bash me or try to change me endlessly.

Answer 9

.....not sure what you mean by 'down low', but if people can't find lovers of their opposing gender - they should bide their time and hold on, not try to get it the 'wrong way'.

Answer 10

ya..i still am. i dont know..i think im jus not ready to put maself out there like dat. =(