Am I having an early mid-life crisis?

Question

I am 30 years old. I'm married, and I have a beautiful 9 year old, a 17 month old, and a husband. I have a good job, a nice house, and a good life.
Several years back, I was still the girl with the pink hair at raves twirling glowsticks and partying the night away. I've grown up a lot since then.
So why is it that sometimes I feel depressed and think I never have as much fun as I used to? What's wrong with me? I know I was living a lifestyle I needed to grow out of, but sometimes I miss the old days... I'm too old to be feeling this way... and too young to be going through a midlife crisis.

Answer 1

No, 30 hit me the same way. We reach a number and feel like we should be a grown up now. And, kids are so demanding. We forget we are people, women and men, and feel like we are only a mommy or daddy.

Get a good sitter for a week end and live it up. Do that about every three months, it really helps. Mommy needs to feel like a woman sometimes.

Answer 2

The same old routine, day in and out can be depressing and make you look back at the good times you used to have. Hey that's what the past is for to look back and have a laugh about something you did or an event that took place, Yes, you might be missing it, but How many women are still out there, 30 years old, don't have a man , much less a husband, would love to have children and the life we all dream about as young girls growing up, You have a good job, and you said a good life.. I'm sure you know the girls I'm refering to , their are many still yearning for your life also.. So try to focus on the positive side of your life, It's normal to feel down at times, we all go through that . The old saying the grass is greener on the other side, appears to be true at times, but it's really not.. Just try to be happy with the wonderful life you have.. Take a break and relax maybe that will be just what you need.. Good Luck, Enjoy the Holidays !! Very Good Question

Answer 3

I don't think you are wrong to be thinking back to the old days. The old days were fun!! I am 32 recently married, and I still think about how much fun the club hopping and partying was. On occassion my husband and I make a plan to go out and live it up - it's normal to still have the same interests you used to. Get a sitter, and you and your husband go out and have a wild night, there is no harm in that at all!

Answer 4

Your going threw something that most people go threw at one point or another. The important thing ,is to know it is just a flash back at what you did when you were young and weigh it out and let it go. Everyone reminisces of the fun they had when they were young, it is a way to escape reality. The good thing is to know that your in a better place for your age and time in your life.

know you have this wonderful children that one day may do exactly as you did. Think of what and were you want them to be when they are at the age that your at..............If you could play a movie of your children's life and take it to the age of thirty where would you like them to be and doing what? So after seeing this movie clip in your mind you will know giving up some fun is what you would want your own kids to do right? .

Answer 5

No you are not experiencing a mid-life crisis. You just probably want some nights out. You do have 2 children and a job. It's difficult to handle all those things at one time. Try having a night out on the weekend and have your husband watch the children. All parents go through what you are going through. There is nothing wrong with you. Go have fun girl, you deserve it.

Answer 6

No dear it's nothing wrong with you. You simply want to have fun and you are bored. Go and be with your freinds every once in a while isn't a bad thing if that makes you happy. You are truly never too old to have fun. I bet someone else told you that you were too old to do the stuff you were doing and you followed their advice, stop it. You have to live your life for you and only you, nobody else. Go out and have some fun. You are only going to truly be happy and fufilled this way. And by no means is this a mid life crisis.

Answer 7

It is not a mid-life crisis...you are just remembering how much fun you used to have! That's why people shouldn't get married and try to settle down until they have experienced that. Would you ever trade your life now for your life then? Didn't think so. You are fine sweetheart, just thinking back to the day! Maybe your husband will take you out partying once in awhile, if you tell him you want to go out. Probably not to a rave...but out nonetheless! Good luck!

Answer 8

your just human.we can't live for the past,but why not go out some and enjoy yourself.your not dead.we all get older,that's life.
get some friends together and go,ask your husband to keep the kids and go out on a girls night.(no men,your married)unless your husband goes with you.
you shouldn't feel depressed you got a family,job,home,and a husband.some people don't have that much and be happy.
30 isn't old,your in the prime of your life.midlife crisis starts about late 40's early 50's.you have a few years to go.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I know how you feel. I'm not sure if you were doing XTC but that could have something to do with it. The most fun I ever had was doing X and partying with my friends. Think back on those times but know your older, wiser, and more mature. You have three adorable children, a wonderful husband, and a good job. Think about those times... hell, miss them if you want... but know your better off now.