My husband knows that I am pregnant and wants to leave the decision up to me.
2006-12-20 01:33:16 · 28 answers · asked by help1972 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Only you can make that choice. You are going to get a lot of reactions by asking that question here. You can't base a decision like that on what others say to you. It's a very personal decision.
2006-12-20 01:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by brianna's mama 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My personal opinion, is no. Alot of people will say they're not ready for a baby cause they have a new job or just got married, stuff like that. But trust me, there is nothing greater than the gift of a child. And I promise, you can still have a life, a great one. I'm 24 and I have a 2 year old and one on the way and I wouldn't change that for anything. I can't tell you all the wonderful things you would miss out on if you had an abortion because they're are so many! And if you decide you don't want this baby, give it to someone who does. Please don't kill this child cause you think your not ready. That's so selfish.
2006-12-20 03:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by amlee_king 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't ask a bunch of people on yahoo! I know what you are going through...i am married too and had a pregnancy scare about 5 months ago and was scared to death. The reason? I simply don't want any more children. However, at that time, I decided that if I was pregnant, i would give it up for adoption. Sounds terrible to a lot of people, but I already have my kids, we're happy, and frankly, i didn't know if we could afford another. So, i decided to have the child and give it to someone who wanted one and couldn't have one. What an amazing gift!
Also, whatever you decide, after this, look into the Mirena IUD. It is incredible, you don't have to think about birth control at all, and it is more effective than having your tubes tied, while being 100 % reversible. Look into it. And I was not, thankfully pregnant, and now have my IUD. It's wonderful.
God bless...think about what is right for you and everyone involved.
2006-12-20 02:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isnt much info to go on...and honestly, only you and your husband can make this decsion...not a bunch of strangers on Yahoo.
But honestly if there is no other issue than your just not ready, there should be no reason to terminate the pregnancy. Your married...I'm going to assume you both work or at least one of you do so you can support the child. If its just that your not ready, thats not a good excuse. If you have health issues, cant afford the baby, or just do not want kids then yes, that could be your excuse. Think long and hard about it though. Even though he says its your decision, if you decide to do it...it will change your marriage no matter how on board he is with it.
2006-12-20 01:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a decision for both of you to make together, being that you are married, and this is both your child. He should not leave this weighty decision solely up to you, that's just taking the easy way out. How can you know if he will be happy with your decision one way or the other years from now if he doesn't make it with you. You don't want all this on you and you shouldn't have to. it sounds like he's being incredibly unfair to you. He married you and that makes you guys a team. Act like it.
2006-12-20 01:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, these people all have vested interests in your choice. They don't have a clue about what you and your husband are going through. Don't let them guilt trip or shame you into making a choice.
I am a big advocate of children being born into happy, safe homes with parents that are able and willing to emotionally and financially support it 100%. If you AND your husband aren't prepared to do this, then an abortion is the answer.
It already sounds like you are leaning towards this direction and that you aren't emotional or financially prepared to go through with a 20+ year investment of time and money.
2006-12-20 01:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by arcaemous 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about how happy the two of you will be! Carring for your baby and having as much love for him as you do for eachother! If you were doing the wright thing you wouldnt think of abortion! That baby will always love you! If you dont want a baby, give him to the millions of women that cant get pregnant and dream of having a child!
2006-12-20 07:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you absolutely should not pay someone to kill your son or daughter. No matter what the circumstances of your life, they are not your baby's fault and your baby does not deserve to die. Your baby is depending on you for love and protection--please give it!
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2006-12-21 07:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why Kill the baby? It didnt ask to be born. Ditch the husband and keep the child. Or give the baby up for adoption and stay with the looser and then the 2 of you can live hapily together getting pregnant over and over and putting your unborn babies up for adoption or aborting them. Listen to yourself and what you are asking. Your mom's kept you both. Why?
2006-12-20 08:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My now husband and I have been together for two years, we kinda did things a little backwards as far as we bought a house this summer, moved in together, and then accidently got pregnant. We went through alot of emotions when I first took the test, and second test, I literally cried for hours. My heart just dropped when I found out. I was on the pill and never missed!!!!
Needless to say...we talked for days and hours trying to figure out what we wanted to do. We were not married, and were not wanting to rush into!! Plus...money money money! We do okay...but we are only making a little over what goes out every month. So we thought and we thought, and I made a appt. at the clinic for a week after our first appt. with the gyno/ob.
But then...it all changed. The day I went into my appt. with the gyno/ob. My guy went with me, and we talked to the doctor for about an hour about abortion, about my past problems with my cervix (LEEP procedures), and what the risks were. The fact that I was 27, everything and anything. Then...we went to the ultrasound to find out exactly how many weeks I was...since that def. would have something to do with the abortion, I could not really remember when my LMP was.
He had to do a vaginal ultrasound and it all changed in my head but mostly in my heart! I saw that little sac...not much to it, but he was big enough to have a heartbeat...at 9 weeks along. From the moment...when i looked into my guy's eyes, the decision was made in my head. I wanted to keep this life inside of me...no matter how hard it is or is it going to be. This was a blessing and I knew it deep down...this was my first child.
I immediately called after lunch to the clinic and canceled my abortion appt. but did not tell my now husband for a few days. I wanted him to have time to realize and understand my decision. Although...he had said one hundred times he would support me no matter what.
What I am trying to tell you is this...I have many freinds...tons who have had abortions, and none of them regrets it...but they have said it does change you. I know that even if I had walked into the clinic to get rid of this child...I would have left before it happened...my heart was just too strong. Now I look at my belly and my pics of this little guy growing inside of me, and I thank God I did not have the abortion.
This is a decision that you have to make. I am not sure your reason for not wanting this baby...but either way they are your reasons and I respect them. Just sit down...and really think about this...and llisten to both your heart and your head.
I hope that you have someone to talk too...bc I had so many people in my life I could turn to who would not judge me in anyway. I hope that you have someone to turn to besides your hubby who will help you through this. If not...please feel free to email me anytime at MaryCatherine26@yahoo.com. Really...I am always hear for you!
2006-12-20 03:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋