knew D recently. D tells me some of the girls at his workplace are very pretty but he insists he never gone out with them even when they ask him out.
He says he's afraid they just want his riches n he looks for inner beauty.
When I jokingly ask if I am pretty, he says No I am not pretty .
How can this be?? I know I am not beauty queen but I think I am at least 7 out of 10 .
My friends tell me I'm quite pretty (and I didn't ask them)
D says No, I am only 5 out of 10 because I am really not pretty AT ALL.
then he says that he doesn't go for looks AT ALL because he is looking for a marriage partner and inner beauty.
How can this be?? Is he playing games?? what is happening?? Is he interested in me??
i thot he interested in me until he said I'm not pretty AT ALL.
GUYS WON'T LOVE SOMEONE THEY DON'T FIND PRETTY, RIGHT?? IS HE TELLING TRUTH?? WHICH PART IS LIE???
He's not handsome. but i dun think he's trying to make me feel insecure so i go w him & no one else??
2006-12-20 00:53:05 · 15 answers · asked by Woman321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he did say that he finds me "quite attractive in character" and he told me some things about my character that he likes ....... but i don't want to waste time dating if it's not going to lead to longterm because i', looking for potential marriage partner and not just a date....... I just always had the idea that men are attracted to only those they find are pretty TO THEM even if to noone else or that if they really like a woman they would find her pretty anyway....... although he says i'm not pretty but i'm attractive in some other ways...
2006-12-20 01:20:42 · update #1
actually he's quite ugly. but it's easier for a woman to be attractedt o a guy even if he's ugly. i like him for many other things bout his personality. He is very charismatic , u know, although he's ugly. But women are different. is it possible for a man to find a woman very attractive attrative enough to cosnider for longterm relationshiip when he thinks she's only average-looking?
2006-12-20 01:25:52 · update #2
First of all.. it is more important what you think about yourself than what he does.. don't let his negative words make you think less of yourself. He may feel uncomfortable telling you he thinks your pretty or just thinks he is being cute telling you are not pretty.. Some guys have no clue about humor... lol.. and also have no clue how what they think is a tease is taken very serious by a women. You do open yourself up for getting answers you don't want when you as such questions, so you also need to understand that they are not best questions to ask. He sounds like he is unsure himself what he wants and is insecure in who he is. His justification for not liking pretty women may because he feels he doesn't have a chance with them so justifies his never asking one to go out. He may also be afraid to acknowledge you are pretty for same reason.. I don't think he is playing a game that he is aware of but not sure you want to be with someone who seems to have such insecure attitudes about himself.
2006-12-20 01:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by incontrol_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is only skin deep and no it ain't everything,to me inner beauty is far more important then outter beauty,i would much rather have a good with a good heart and a great sense of humour than one with good looks or a hot body anyday!!!!I am sure not everyone thinks this way though there are many superfucail people out there that are attracted to someone based soely on the outward apperances!!!!I ain't no 10 either but i think of myself as just as good as anyone else,i am not better or no worse we are all created equal!!!The thing is that most or all of the pretty girls or handsome guys know that they are real lookers and they lets it go to their head,they walks around with their noses in the air thinkin they are better then everyone else but i am afraid they are really ugly on the inside and when they gets older and thier looks starts to fade they will be very lonely left only with their ugly souls!!!!
2006-12-20 01:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to tell you something. He mentioned that he is looking for a marriage partner with inner beauty. Maybe he wants to be with you. Great quality in a man. Better then some men who want to throw their wives away because, they gain a few pounds and get older. Beauty doesn't last forever.
2006-12-20 00:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing he is a jerk. I would not waste any of my time on a person like this. Each person looks for something different in a spouse or wife or girl friend. Pretty is nice, but sweet goes a long way. I have had pretty, and not nice, I perfer pretty and nice, and if you are not a beauty queen, then be as sweet as you can be. Sweet wins in my book.
2006-12-20 00:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be insecure girl.... beauty is not only based physically...this may sound cliche for you but beauty really comes from within..
i am saying that based on my experience.
you may not be beautiful to him but you are indeed beautiful for somebody....always remember that real beauty will radiate from within...nobody will like you even if you are the prettiest girl in this whole world but you're character sucks...nobody wants to be with you if that will be the case....i know that D is just trying to get into the real you so, be yourself and don't mind what other people think about you. what matters is that you've never done anybody any harm...
enjoy life and be beautiful inside!!!
2006-12-20 01:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by mcbeth007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? People marry for love or at least normal people do. Looks can play a role but not toatally. Its hard to figure out why this guy would come right out and say what he did. He sounds pretty insecure.
2006-12-20 01:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't need to say what he did, just a little bit more information than u needed to be told. need to talk to him, tell him how u feel about his comments. sounds a bit insensitive really. your clearly hurt over this, and u think he doesn't view u the way u view yourself. if he is only seeking someone with inner beauty why is he causing u to question your own looks, by diminishing you? he may be thinking if he tells u that u are beautiful, that u may just leave him for someone more hansom.
2006-12-20 02:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him cause that's just rude what he is telling u. He probably is serious about what he is saying but ultimately if he does marry u he will cheat on u with women he does find attractive. Just because he may not find u attractive in his book doesn't mean ur UGLY...
2006-12-20 00:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people marry unfortunate looking people so they can feel secure they will never be cheated on and the wife/husband won't leave them.
PS Stay away from him he sounds like a jerk.
2006-12-20 00:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by valley_storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love will make the ugliest thing beautiful. Sorry, if I was you I would dump him, he isn't worth your time. Find someone who can see the real you, inside and out!
2006-12-20 01:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋