Want a baby at 44 years of age but husband says NO!?

Question

I recently married a man who has no children and I want to have one for him. Time is running out for me because I am 44 years of age and he wants to wait another year before he even thinks about. Is there anyone out there who had a baby at 45 or 46 naturally? I really want a baby with my husband...Help

My husband and I have no kids.

Answer 1

Yes my aunt was 45 when she got pregnant and 46 when she had the baby and nothing went wrong and she didnt have any problems during her pregnancy and she had a healthy baby girl

Answer 2

I think that you would want to find out why he wants to wait a year. Does he want kids at all? You are on a very limited time clock, he is not. Does he understand this? I had my son at 38 and while everything was okay (I had 4 kids earlier, remarried and wanted another 10 years after the last one), I have had many friends who had never had kids and are just now trying. One of them ended up having fertility treatments that worked after a year at 38. The other went through 5 rounds of IVF and nothing. The fact is we are meant to have children in our 20's thru early 30's. It becomes more difficult to conceive as we get older. Our eggs are older and become more defective. Women have had kids in their 40's. It does happen. Each year that passes decreases the odds. Most fertility clinics would recommend using donor eggs after 45 for better results. I would do a lot of research and show your husband the information.

Answer 3

I'm 47 and I have a few friends who started families very late. I have two friends who had their babies at 40 and 42 and both needed medical intervention to get pregnant. One went to an infertility specialist for about a year but didn't need anything more than the over the counter ovulation tests and to learn to graph her cycle and the other needed invitro ferilization. They both had normal pregnancy experiences and are doing great as moms. Their kids are 8 and 5 right now and for both, it's a positive experience.

My aunt adopted my cousin at 48 and I wouldn't say it was nearly as positive. I don't think my aunt had really thought through the changes that would happen in her life and I know she hadn't considered the aging parent factor. My cousin had parents who were old in so many ways. He's 34 now and dealing with his own young children and also with the care of my aunt. I know it's hard on him and it's been hard on him. He lost his dad as a teen and although he adores his mom, he has often wondered why she thought she wanted kids.

Answer 4

If you are otherwise healthful, why now not, if that is what you need? My mother was once 35 once I was once born and passed away she used to be 75. I was once 40. That used to be greater than sufficient time to be raised, and i am glad she decided to have me. You do have to recall this may occasionally most often change your retirement plans, as your little one will graduate from excessive tuition in your early 60's and tuition for your late 60's. If you are planning an early retirement, shelve that proposal. If you're now not healthful, have power health disorders (hypertension/chubby/diabetes/smokin... And so on) and you don't plan to change your habits so that you could live a long lifestyles, then take into account why and whether or not that is fair to your child. But it would not sound like that's the case, so I say go for it if that is what you'll both like. .

Answer 5

"Advanced" maternal age is defined as any expectant mother who will have made her 35th birthday by the time she delivers. This term is a throw-back to the times when women married in their teens and began giving birth at a much younger age. However, there certainly are more risks. Women who would never consider an abortion, no matter what, might not want to subject a probably normal baby to the very small risks associated with the invasive procedures. Here's a link that describes links by the age of the mother. Best of luck to you. I hope all works out!

Answer 6

Before you married this guy is the time to discuss babies. Not after your married. He knows darn well that having a baby at 45 is going to be extremely hard on you unless he is living in a bubble.
You don't want a sick baby on your hands.
I would think about adopting an older child.
If you had a baby now by the time its 20 you will be ready to retire!

Answer 7

Once over 40, you run the risk of complications. Each year after 40, you are higher risk of complications. It's not unheard of to have a baby at 45, but I would really think about it and talk to you doctor. I would talk to your husband too and just tell him that time is running out and he needs to make a decision now. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 8

If you have had two already, you have reached the maximum number that any couple should EVER have in a world where over-population is choking the life out of the planet. If he had two already with a previous mate, he has already been there too. Why don't you enjoy each other rather than having to focus on the needs of a child as you approach old age.

Answer 9

My aunt had her one and only at 45 yrs of age... But you have to consider all of the chances you are taking with birth defects and all... Best thing would be to consult your OB>GYN --Get all of the pro's/cons to this before you make your decision.
May be your husband wants it so that he doesn't have to worry about anything but you and him...
Find out why he really doesn't want too..

Answer 10

well with 44 having a baby.well why not.but also see it of the risky site.the older one gets the more risk is it to get a not healthy child..some got lucky and have a baby that is healthy but some dont ..so think it over wisely