2006-12-19 23:32:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He cheated in a one night stand, he has only slept with me prior to that.I thought a break was a good idea as he needs to get over his curiousity with other people.What are your ideas on this?We are both 24 and have been together since 19.We were virgins when we met.
2006-12-19 23:40:09 · update #1
I got together with my partner when I was 19 - in the 11 years since, we've split up twice , once for about a year, stayed best of friends for that time, one night we were out and realised that we were eachothers loves of life and discussed marriage etc - we're now married, extremely happy and hoping to start a family soon. Only the two of you can decided, there will be skeptics but relationships are about understanding eachothers changing needs as you grow and trying to give and take and understand in equal measures. Good luck, whatever your decision
2006-12-19 23:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!
I'm not entirely sure what to advise you as i'm going through a break in my relationship and not really certain whether it's temporary or permanent! I'll try my best anyway....
I'm a believer that everything can be worked out, discussed. I understand you've been with each other for some time and i guess some relationships grow stronger and stronger.. whereas others fizzle out in time.
I guess the only thing i can say is that if your feelings are genuine then perhaps you should stick with what you believe in. If you truly love him, that might mean just giving him his space... perhaps this time will also give you an insight into the way you feel... and believe me, even though i'm certain how i feel, i've learnt a lot in the last few weeks.
However, having said that, if you truly love him then it may be harder falling back into place after having the temporary break knowing that it's for him to get more sexual experiences...
The most important thing is that you should really look into yourself and figure out what it is you want... and what his actions will mean to you. Only then can you move on... whether that's in or out of the relationship!
Wish you all the best x
2006-12-20 03:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeous_ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temporary breaks seldom work. It leaves room for someone else to swoop in and the the temporary break becomes a permanent one. If you are wanting to break up then just do it. If you and the other person are meant to be then in time the two of you will come back together, if not then it was meant to be. If you have ever watched friends remember what happened to Rachael and Ross, Ross slept with another women because he claims they were on a break. If you want a break the two of you might want to set some ground rules, but remember it is hard to go back to someone when they have been with someone else. I am sure no matter what you decide you will weigh your pro's and con's and come up with the best solution for you and your significant other. Best of luck to the both of you.
2006-12-19 23:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
temporary break is good sometimes, it gives you a chance to be on ur own and sort through your feelings without any pressure. My bf and I took a break for a month in the middle of our 2nd year together. we're doing well; Getting married at the end of January ^_^
2006-12-19 23:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes had a break, the work out part is odd. He married someone else and we didn't talk for 10 years, but now we're really great friends, 25 years after the break up
2006-12-19 23:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't but some friends have. Two of my friends had a break and are now both happier than they ever have been with their partner before. Another friend did it and her other half has now moved to the other side of the world, so less successful!
2006-12-19 23:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had a break and no it didn't work out. When we got back together all the "problems" were still there and decided to call it quits.
2006-12-19 23:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it twice and it didn't work out either time! Each to their own on this one.
If it is so you can sleep around a bit and then get back together - would you trust each other after??? Spells disaster to me but i could be wrong!
2006-12-19 23:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... in my own point of view, cool off or temporary break up wouldnt give u a bit of advantage. think about it, while ur there in pain with what he did, he's with another woman...
as much as u wanted to keep ur relationship, value urself first... ul always as in always end up not trusting him forever if u wont do anything about this situation.
in the first place, if he really loved you... he wouldnt do such stupid mistake!
2006-12-19 23:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Enya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means that one of u want out - let him be -ur better off without him!!! Once a cheat always a cheater!! I wouldnt take someone back if he slept with someone else - no way - im much better than that and so are you!!!!! Move on
2006-12-19 23:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋