A long time ago I dated this woman who treated me very well until about a month into our relationship. I guess she thought I was easy prey. So I rejected her from then on out. I would not answer the phone and I refuse to have any communication with her whatsoever. About 6 months goes by and she tells lies like: I'm gay and stuff like that. Well, that only gave me more reason to hate her with the passion! Its been 6 years now and I haven't talked to her sense and never will! I've been single for most of my life and like it that way! I need nobody. At this point I am much more happy being on my own.
2006-12-19 22:54:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The Idea that you have to married or have someone in your life is an illusion.
2006-12-19 22:55:32 · update #1
Sounds like you got unlucky and ended up with someone with issues. If you're happy being single, then fine, be single and be happy. However, don't let this one relationship sour your view of the whole of the female gender.
2006-12-19 22:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why allow this woman to dictate to you that it's better to be alone? Because of what she has done, you have basically convinced yourself that you don't need anybody. No, you probably don't "need" anybody, but someone may miss out on "you". Many people out there have probably been badly hurt by someone in their life and lost trust.
At least you haven't degraded yourself by hitting back at this sorry assed woman whose only hit back is some pathetic rumour that you are "gay". Wow, is that all she can muster?
If you are happy on your own, that is great, but if someone should enter your life and you happen to think there is an opening somewhere, then why not consider it?
You know the saying "It is better to have loved and to have lost, than never to have loved at all".
She's got the issues, don't end up judging others by her. I don't think she counted on you rejecting her and it's obviously dented her ego. In her turn, all she can do is attempt to spread false rumours. Ignore it and her and move on. If you move on alone, that's ok, but certainly would you do that to anyone? No, I bet you wouldn't. You're not the only decent person out there, so keep your heart a little open when your ready. I'd rather be hurt a few times, than shut myself off. Life unfortunately is about taking risks at times and some people can run the gaunlet of going through some really bad relationships before striking gold.
Some do prefer to remain single. Nothing wrong in that either. Just saying, don't do it on her account.
2006-12-20 07:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you got your feelings hurt and now feel so jaded regarding relationships. She was probably just a very sick and manipulative individual. However, you can not base one bad experience on the rest of the world. There are some genuine and honest women and men in this world. Just take it slow next time and have fun. Being in a relationship with someone you love and loves you back, is a very rewarding experience. Good luck to you and God bless****
2006-12-20 06:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man, all i can say is that you got hurt. so move on and stop letting things in the past get in your way of living your life to the fullest. you have to look at it from this way: the people that really know you know different (about the gay thing), and who really gives a crap what others think of you, its not important. You should hate no one. God says love the sinner but hate the sin. Forgive her, put her out of your life and move on.
move on, carpe diem, and all that jazz.
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-20 07:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate her feel sorry for her. People who spread rumors and try to do damage to others have problems. Most people like that want to be noticed and she wants to make her self look much better then others. She needs your pity not your hate. I wouldn't worry about her. Move on there is more to life.
2006-12-20 07:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by letfreedomring 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that people intentionally set out to hurt others, just that I think they are purely out for themselves and once the novelty wears off, they just couldn't give a sh!t.
I've experienced this quite recently and she continues as if we parted amicably when it was anything but. She lost quite a few friends because of her behaviour and treatment of me but once again..........she couldn't care less!
2006-12-20 07:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are sadistic when rejected..the thing is that you know the truth about the rumors she spread, the people who are your friends and family know you better than that, so rise above it and live a good life, that's the best revenge in the world, in my opinion
2006-12-20 07:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think hurting someone feeling is fun,and people that do that are trying to make themselves feel better,As for being alone good if that's what you like,but everyone gets lonely sometimes when its right you'll no,as for this chick let it go its not worth your thoughts...Merry Ho Ho..
2006-12-20 07:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant stop peoples perceptions
people have a long way of thinking and envy to those people who have fun in making others wrong and always feeling tat wat ever they do it is rite just neglect such people around as it wud be late for them and they wud ultimately know tat they were foolish to think that they were the smartest people around
2006-12-20 07:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really sorry to hear that..to hurt someones feelings is not nice..and hey never say no ..there is someone out there who will respect you and your feelings and come on dont give up ok :)
2006-12-20 07:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by sweety4live2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋