i was recently humiliated and have kind of sorted it and its over. but i keep gettig back visions and ideas and think of 'what if' some times. how do i stop it.
2006-12-19 22:44:58 · 11 answers · asked by Ellen 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
it wasn't my fault. actually this is what happened :
My fiancé recently had a fight with a neighbor (call him Mr.X) over a house issue. this neighbor is not very educated and is a real thug. last week one of my cousins had told my sister that her husband told her that this neighbor Mr.X , had told her husband a lot of nasty things about me. They were very dirty comments about my character and so on. she said she was surprised. my sister told this to me. My fiancé and i questioned my cousin and blasted her for talking bad things about me and not telling us directly. then she just confessed saying Mr. X had told her husband etc.
My fiancé and i now realize that our neighbor Mr. X is such low guy and he simply wanted to disgrace my fiancé, so he has told this.
My fiancé and i don’t want to talk to to Mr. X about it because he is a real cheap man anyway.
So we just decided to forget about it.
2006-12-19 22:50:51 · update #1
I had a neighbor like this once. Just let sleeping dogs lie.
He is not dealing with a full deck! No sense in trying to talk to him because he won't understand. People who really know you will know he's a dummy.
2006-12-20 00:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your sub conscience trying yo tell you that you need to look at the situation and figure out if you were right or wrong in that particular situation. It is further trying to have you figure out a better way to handle the same kind of situation if it should happen again in the future.
We have all felt humiliated before! Do not beat yourself up. Use it as a learning situation. Once you have really worked out what happened and how you could have handled it in a better way, I think you will stop having back visions.
Good luck, God bless and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-20 06:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by moonlight_is_harmonious_1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say. It is really hard to come over it. Just try and distract yourself. Try and make yourself feel better by saying anyone could have done that, hard to believe at first but you will start to believe. I feel as if i can just die on the spot of i have been embarrassed or humiliated.
2006-12-20 06:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to accept it because as well all know, you cannot change the past. However, you can try to prepare yourself for the future by preventing humiliation by learning from what happened.
2006-12-20 06:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
- I'm taught by my grandma that, back visions & lil voices with ; what if, if only, to bad that, it sucks that, & then its rewind & play, rewind & play, till you go off the deep end -N- go nuts, its the enemy messing with you'r head. Its spiritual warfare & their attacking you with the aim of diiving you into mental misery. Makes me shudder to think of whats next on their aggenda, Now GOD - is'nt doing this to you, but HE can help you out of it. GOD is a GOD of peace & comfort, only HE can deliver you permently from these kind of attacks. Go to HIM with this, ask him into you'r life all the more, HE will set a hedge of protection around you, & give you a peace that surpasses all human understanding. HE is able . . . go to HIM . . . JESUS . . .
- MICROW-
2006-12-20 07:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mystro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defeated.
2006-12-20 06:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I hate that... um, I'm not really sure anything can help it but time... or getting something more memorable to happen to you so that you can think about that instead of the humiliation.
2006-12-20 06:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sara ♈ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better to forget the matter
but do clear the matter with the cousins husband
2006-12-20 06:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by shaikh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother......just feel sorry for anyone trying to do it to you. After a while with this self confidence you can practice with acid tongue retorts.......baby steps at first of course.
2006-12-20 06:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by b-overit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and remember you know the truth
2006-12-20 07:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋