Anyone gone through what i have today?

Question

my 6 year old dog had lukemia, i had to put him to sleep how will i ever get over it

Answer 1

hugs and condolences to you, its awful to lose a dear friend like that! You know you did what was best for him. You will always remember him, and in time it will hurt less and make you smile more when you think of him.

Give (even if it's just $10) to your local shelter in your doggy friends name, as a memorial.

When you are ready, do get another pet ... not a replacement, but as a reminder of the friendship pets give. People vary on w hen it is the right time for a new pet ... give yourself all the time you need, also, if you are the kind for whom a new pet right away would help ease the pain, dont let anyone tell you that is wrong.

Mostly, sit with the feelings, grieve, remember your dear pet friend, and take good care of yourself.

Answer 2

You've got quite a few insensitive answers on here from some people. Unfortunately, that's the way a lot of people are.

In October 2000 I had to have my best friend put to sleep because of cancer. I say this to let you know that I know where you are coming from. It really is a horrible feeling.

Whilst it will hit you very hard, the best advice I can give is:

1. To allow yourself time and space to grieve in private, but....

2. In public, DO try to continue with life as normal. Whilst this is much easier said than done, it will mean that you can avoid a lot of the insensitive crap that a lot of people will give you.

When I mentioned at work that I'd had to have my dog euthanised, the response varied only from "it was only a dog" (not said directly to me, but well within my earshot so I could hear), to "aw that's sad, anyway have you finished that job I gave you to do?".

What I'm saying is to be prepared for a lack of sympathy from people, especially those who are relying on you.

You'll never stop missing your dog, ever - but with time the pain DOES get easier. Spend time with understanding friends and family. Having friends surround you helps a lot to ease the pain, to remind you that there are people who do care.

Lean on your true friends, you'll need them.

As for whether to get another dog, personally I'd wait until you're less emotional so that you can make a better decision. In January this year I got myself a rescue dog and he's filled a large part of the gap left by the one I lost 6 years ago. He's great and we've bonded superbly.

I wish you the best.

Answer 3

My heart goes out to you. I had 6 dogs 5 cats and 2 ferrets. Last June I had a Whippet, the doctor said he'd be fine. Then at the end of 1,000dollars and a 3 day hospital stay the Doctor called and I had him in my arms and we put him to sleep. The next month my beautiful white German Shepherd came down with bone cancer and we had to put him down. There really isn't much I can tell you other than the way I handled it. You did the best you could, because you are not God. Then you will get to a place where he isn't sick anymore. Then you know he is happy. Then you will see him again and he will thank-you for your love. Then time will let you forgive yourself. Yes, what you are feeling is guilt, you should have done more. There are people out there that does care at all. Comfort yourself that he is with God, and he knows, even if at this time you don't, you loved him enough to let him go. Take Care you will realize it soon.

Answer 4

yup, i no exactly how u feel! about 4 months ago i had to put down my dog who had cancer....iv never cried so much as i did that day. In th eend i made a memorial thing for yer, that had photos etc on it, i always thinhk about the good fun times that i had with her and yeah i still do cry sumtimes but i also think it was probably the nicer way to die than to go thru the pain of the cancer. It does become easier over time but its good that u grieve, it shows that u loved ur dog! hope things get easier for u!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for you. We lost our Springer Spaniel at the age of 6 to an untreatable tumour. He only got sick a couple of days before we had to make the heart wrenching decision to put him to sleep.
I thought at the time I would never get over it, it was such a shock and seemed even more unfair because he was so young.
We asked for his ashes to be returned to us and took them to his favourite spot by the woods to scatter them, which helped to say goodbye. I waited a year before getting another dog because I was worried about comparing any new dog with the one we lost. It took a while but time does make these things easier to cope with - we still have pictures of him around the house and we still laugh when we think about funny things he used to do. I'm sure you will never forget your dog but in time I hope the pain eases and you feel better. Don't rush in to getting another dog, give yourself time to grieve and you will know when the time is right x

Answer 6

My heart goes out to you. There are people who can understand what you are going through. I lost my companion of 17 years, who had been with me through thick and thin, my best friend, just over a year ago.

Unfortunately, it feels like no-one understands when this happens, you can see it in most people's eyes, thinking 'it's only a dog'. My advice to you is to stay away from them. Don't bother trying to explain. You should acknowledge your loss. I have a little place in my house with photos of my cat and I talk to him still. I wrote him letters to tell him how much he meant to me. You may feel lonely without his company. I visited other cats just to get some feline company. You could ask to take someone else's dog for a walk, it may help. Do what you feel helps, and be prepared to try different ways of coping.

There is a pet bereavement service where you can call and talk to people who have been through the same thing. Put pet bereavement into Yahoo and ring them.

I do understand what you are going through and my thoughts are with you.

Answer 7

Sometimes the world is a hard cruel place, but slowly the saddness will ease and you will remember all the love and joy your dog brought you. The loss will always be with you but time is a great healer, at least you had the courage to stop the suffering of a beloved pet now and maybe just maybe there looking down right now wagging there tail and thanking you for their release.......Hard to do but keep thinking of the good times, big hugs sent with this message for you, Tess

Answer 8

You will never get over it but it WILL get easier to deal with. I have lost all my dobermans to cancer although years apart. I always bought another when I learned I would be unable to save mine thus giving time for the sick one to leave some impressions on the new one. I have always found immediate replacement to be the best and I should not have said replacement because that you can't do but in time you will love your new one as much just in a new way unique to that animal. I am so sorry! Take your best picture and have a painting done and hang it up! You'll be glad you did!

Answer 9

I am so sorry. I have never had an animal to have to be put to sleep thank goodness however 2 years ago my sweet pomeranian, Myloh was hit by a car and died. That was the worst pain that I have ever felt. I cried for days and had bad dreams as well. It took a very long time to get over his death but every day got a little bit better with time. Just try to remember the good times that you had with him. Nothing that anyone can say will make you feel better or hurt less. It just takes time. Good luck and again I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

OUch! I'm really sorry - I know how you feel! It is tough but you will eventually move on. My dog was involved in an accident and he was very badly hurt. His flesh was torn of his body and his Two legs were broken and our VET said that he would suffer if he lived so we made the decision to put him to sleep - I was 16 back then now I'm 31 - I had him for 4 years. I still think about him - believe it or not!

I feel for you Bro!