My financee lied to me and seen another woman in another country while on R&R. We are suppose to get married in April. He sent her flowers a few times, but he does send friends flowers. I invested the flower account and noticed only all my flowers he sends, say "I love you". But do you send "friends" roses on valentines day. He has appologized over and over and says he knows he messed up and will do whatever it takes to rebuild my trust. He promised he would never hurt me again. He keeps saying over and over how much he loves me. I love him with all my heart, but my heart still hurts undescribely over what he did. I want it work with us, I love him with all my heart. For over 2 years I remained faithful to him, while he was in Iraq and he does this to me. Should I give him another chance?
2006-12-19 21:17:16 · 11 answers · asked by taken2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, it sounds like he has a problem with being faithful.
Can you trust him again completely?
If not then you aren't going to have a good relationship and it will end again and most likely badly.
I would tell him you want some space to yourself, say three weeks with no contact and see where both of you stand by then. But you can't call him, it's hard but it's a small price to pay to see how it comes out. If both of you miss each other and still want to be together then you will make a better effort at it and he will hopefully wake up thinking how he almost lost you.
If you do go back you should tell him you aren't happy about him sending flowers to friends like that though. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and if he truly loves you he will understand and stop making you feel uncomfortable.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 21:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you..it must ne very hard. You have to ask ur self 3 questions:
1. Do you love him so much, and can still imagine to be married for life with him?
2. We cant forget, but we can forgive. Do you want to at least try to forgive him?
3. Its the trust. Its gone now-out from the window. It takes time to rebuild broken trust. Do you want to do it...?
if all of the answers for the questions above are: yes, then give him a chance.
And one 1 condition. Have a dinner with him and talk it over. Ask him any doubts that you want to ask to him. Then tell him how much has he HURT you. This is important. And tell him too, how WILL he feel if you are the one who cheat on him? Its not easy to forgive and rebuilt trust, and you shout tell him that too and its up to you both if you still want to giv it another shot.
My last advice-please postpone your wedding. Its a wrong thing to do when your trust has been broken. Its a life commitment-please postpone your wedding.
Go ahead for a time-out if you need it. Either seeing a counsellor or a time-out will give you time and space to rethink and decide whether he is really the one for you.
i wish you all the best
2006-12-19 21:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 13:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should give him another chance, because he obviously did not lie to you enough or hurt you enough yet for you to figure out that he is no good
or maybe you like being lied to and hurt
2006-12-19 21:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, everyone desrves a second chance... maybe the girl seduce him or he just miss u so much... or maybe he just see you in the girl...but if he do it again dump him and get a life
2006-12-19 22:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by niknak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the clown!!
He has no morals!
Believe me when I say it will only get worse!
He's already broken your heart and violated your trust.
SEND HIM PACKING!!!!!!
2006-12-19 21:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by fnytms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. he doesn't deserve a second chance as betrayal of trust is a critical problem.
2006-12-19 21:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he dont deserve another chance am only 13 maybe i might go trough that but no mr u aint getting no chance beacouse he might do that again so please dont give him another chance
2006-12-19 22:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, in my experience, once a cheater always a cheater!
2006-12-19 21:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel u r soul mates, then yes. only u know the answer. chin up.... every one learns from their mistakes
2006-12-19 21:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋