Im shattered...after going out for a year me and my girlfriend have broken up (mutual thing) but the problem is its silly cos we both still really have strong feelings for each other. The timing just not right for us because her parents are going through a nasty divorce and shes an emotional wreck at the moment. We both agreed that we would be better off and happier to leave the relationship now before things got really bad between us and so she wouldnt put me through all her pain. I wanted to be there for her through this but she decided it was best for me not too. But she is the girl i want to end up with and i just hope that one day we can get back together and give it another shot. Yet im worried that as time goes by we will most likely move on and find other people. We broke up on really good terms and have agreed to stay close friends...i just really hope that by doing that it leaves the door open for us to be together again. Is this likely or am i just giving myself false hope?
2006-12-19 21:13:48 · 12 answers · asked by ausbloke1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since you both has decided to remain as close friends, then it should be fine. cos it's not easy to get over someone that easily, the feeling will not go off so easily, so being close friends can intensify her feelings for you, though at this point of time you both are not officially bf/gf.
so don't worry. just cease the opportunity and enjoy the friendship(that is potential of a relationship.)
2006-12-19 21:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce may not be the real reason. She could have just let you down nicely without really telling the truth that she doesn't want a relationship with you. Sometimes well meaning people do this because they don't want to see the other person get upset. However, it isn't fair to the other person because they keep holding on to something that isn't there. If she let you go, start seeing other people. You are entitled to your happiness. I am in a similar situation right now and that is what I'm trying to do. Good luck. Maeve
2006-12-20 05:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i really do not understand smth here - why do we get into relationships on the first place? isn't it to have a firm shoulder to cry on when life is hard and unbearable? and at the most difficult moment of her life u re dumping her? even if she asked u to u should have told that u refuse to let her go and want to be with her during hard times for her. maybe this what she acxtually expected u to do as a real man. she will never forgive u for leaving her at the most difficult time of her life. so u might forget about her
2006-12-20 05:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way u have put it, yes there seems to b a possibility of you 2 getting together again and yes that seems to b a nice things to me too, but just hoping will not bring u together, i always believe, dont wait for things to happen, make them happen, nobody else will do things for u, u have to do it for urself, so just stay in touch, and show ur concern, and wen the right time comes, u can just tell her, or u can just act(gradually) as if ur her bfs, hope it works, and this way u dont need to say anything, everything will flow, all u hv to do is, just b with her, support, her and love her as u hv always done so, all the best
2006-12-20 05:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by hmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to his house and asked to his parantes that u have felling in ur hart for her and u love her if ur true in the front of them and u really love her so no one can stop u ok just do that what i saidand then see what happend
2006-12-20 05:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by magic boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say false hope.
I would say to listen to your ex g/f she wants her space, give it to her.
Remember though, if it's meant to be it will be but you can't force it.
Sometimes you have to set something free and it was meant to be then it will be.
Keep yourself with busy with friends, family, school, work or a hobby and if she wants to see you she will call you.
2006-12-20 05:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship always has to grow.Just date for now or just be friends.
2006-12-20 05:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not gonna get back together then the least you can do is be there for her during this time....maybe this will bring you guys back together.
Good luck
2006-12-20 06:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by babes28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll just have to wait to see because things might change with time and you should just leave it as friends until later :) :) :)
2006-12-20 05:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going though alot, give her time and space.
2006-12-20 05:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋