I'm a smart girl, not ugly, not a supermodel, average, and i keep falling in love with guys, who don't appreciate me. They don't respect me, and always choose a girl, who's not smarter or prettier or kinder than me. (i'm not conceited, everybody tells me those things, i've just written) But unfortunatelly i'm not smart enough to figure out what is the problem, it's something about me, that scares them off, and i have to say, good for me, because eventually it turnes out those guys weren't for me after all. But who is? And where can i find a guy, who appretiates me, for who i am? Nowadays i find it hard to look at a guy, because i fear, he's going to be a jerk too.
2006-12-19 21:04:42 · 22 answers · asked by wendy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
may be in their eyes ur also a jerk? thats why they leave u.
u will never find a perfect guy ever
2006-12-19 21:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My love you have quite openly asked me a question, which, to me is an easy question to answer, why? Because it's the fundemental reason why I cannot get the respect of any of the attractive Ladys I see on the streets of Britain today.
1. As you have quite wrightly said ,You are an attractive Lady. Ask any guy (don't take my word 4 it) "95% of blokes are afraid to even speak to or approach a really good looking girl. (unless after a one nite stand.)
2. Secondly, The reason why smart, long haired blonde girls fall in love with jerks is cos, "the girls feel SORRY FOR THE JERKS".
yOUR question reminds me of the american show "beauty & the geek" (u will like this c4 on sat & sunday mornings on T4.
if ure in SOUth west uk I 'm happy to meet with u.
2006-12-20 07:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, he will come. Girl dont ya know that younger guys or guys in your same age group fear smart women. They want to call the shots so they go after the fickle females because they can run over them. Respectable men who are able to know that it is a privilege and a plus to have a smart, intelligent, proud, independent woman are the ones to consider. These men tend to be the ones who are experienced and distinguished and settled and usually older but not old. So you might want to meet someone who has the same interests as you and want the same things as you want in the future.
2006-12-19 21:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of girls go through phases like that. I certainly have gone for guys who turned out not to be right for me- but I thought they would change!!!! Why do us girls do that?!
"Sitting at home next to your phone waiting for some guy to call...
Wondering why, when he seemed so keen, you haven’t heard from him…
Making up wild excuses, like he’s saving children from a burning building, or been abducted by aliens…
Or losing faith altogether, assuming he’s married, or gay, or an escaped convict…
Or maybe, whilst eating the entire contents of your fridge, you’ve decided it’s you?
Wondering why the man of your dreams has turned into your worst nightmare…
And wondering why, if he’s your worst nightmare, do you still care if he calls?
…So did we!"
Here are some of those girls at this site http://www.willhecall.com/home.php
and a community of people who know exactly what you mean
2006-12-20 08:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you respect yourself? Do you say "yes" when you mean "no"? Are you a doormat? Honey, before anyone will take you seriously or respect you, you need you stand up 4 yourself and vocalize. You don't have to be a genius to get guys to respect you and not take to 4 granted. Be strong, know yourself, love yourself & those close to you. Don't waste your time on frivilous expenditures such as the respect of some random dudes. Put yourself first.
2006-12-19 21:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Toni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very nice person and these idiot guys think they can take advantage...don't think you are not smart enough...you are probably too smart for them...as for falling for them in the first place...well that's animal instinct and there's not a lot you can do about that...think of them as a fancy box of chocolates, when you open and have a taste it's not as sweet you thought...sometimes your favourite sweets can be in a small packet...see what Santa brings...Merry Christmas
2006-12-19 21:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by reggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not only smart girls, but dumb girls too
you do not posses the gift of figuring out a persons insides yet, eventualy you will be able to smell a jerk from a mile away
2006-12-19 21:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are jerks!! My bf is amazing - treats me the way I should be treated, only looks at me, commited, faithful - still he is possesive and doesnt alow me to do anything!! I dont know if there is anybody out there who is perfect - but i know theres someone perfect for me!! I guess you should just wait for him.... he will find you
2006-12-19 21:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps the other girls they choose are the following victims. and also, age matters too. how old are all of you? usually schoolboys just love to test the waters and play a fool but girls are serious.
2006-12-19 21:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we fall in love with jerks cos wer 22222 cleva n it has a reverse effect on us individuals so we end up liking the ones wer not ment 2!
2006-12-20 03:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋