i have 17yr step daughter, she stopped school when 12, she takes and sells drugs, abusive, we have reported the matter to police to arrest her bf dealer, they wuldnt coz they said they need to catch them in action, which is impossible cz they go places to do it, she comes home at 5 in the morning, and starts slamming doors, im 8 months pregnant and worried how i will raise wen she is this house, the dad has told her to go to her mother's she refused cz she wont leave her bf, and they say we cant trow her out, what can i do, im so depressed, she makes amess in the whole house, and will never clean, she burnt me with cig wen i told her, and i cnt beat her, coz they say i will arrested, so i just live in ahouse that im scared of raising my coming baby, how would i protect my baby if the police wont do anything? i live in asmall town in spain, and police are not helpful at all.please help me.what can i do? we have found coccaine and other drugs, police still wont arrest them.
2006-12-19 20:33:12 · 10 answers · asked by penny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ofcourse you can throw her out! Just move her stuff out and change the locks! She doesn't pay you rent, does she? Not like SHE's going to go to the police, is it?
2006-12-19 20:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your biggest problem is not your druggy stepchild it's YOU. How else could you (& hubby) offer "sexy" pix of a pregnant person for sale or allow a child to skip school for years or allow anyone to burn you with a cigarette w/out you or your husband standing up for yourself or at bare minimum calling the cops.
Check yourself into drug/alcohol rehab
AND
Contact social services in your city if you are being abused (they can help w counselling, housing, $$ and protection from the guy)
AND
Divorce your hubby since he's not doing what's needed for you or his child
AND last but not least,
Make sure you get your baby put up for adoption at birth. Clearly taking care of another person would be too much for you at this time.
2006-12-20 10:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Catin T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your home. If she wants to live there she should abide by YOUR rules. If she doesnt like it, I suggest you contact the mother to come and get her. Or dad can be more ascertive, and pack her things, put her on a bus or can take her to the mothers himself. It doesnt sound like he is doing much to put the situation right. Do you have social welfare there? What is the legal aid for a minor in Spain. Here in South Africa it is 18, and we can kick them out of the house. I would never accept behaviour like this from my husbands children. He has 5 of them, and they respect me, and today we have a very good relationship. Get her out out out of your house. Its your right to be safe and happy, especially with a baby on the way.
2006-12-20 04:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kevon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of government legislated Racial abuse?
You are in Spain, they don't want ex-pats there. Of course they won't help you, they hope all the Brits etc. will kill each other off.
Spanish Inquisition, genocide of the Incas, bullfighting. Why would you want to live amongst people like that? Return home and bring your baby up in a civilised country. You owe it to her/him.
2006-12-23 18:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the out of the house
2006-12-20 07:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in the situation of being a drug dealers girlfriend. I was beaten by my boyfriend, held up at gunpoint and hated it. you need to do everything in your power to get her to stop, before its too late!! I never did drugs, but i saw what they can do....time is running out for her!!!
2006-12-20 07:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd move out and raise your daughter in a house where she doesn't live. this way your husband will know that you mean business. if your husband really loves you he'll put his daughter in rehab of juvenile detention or whatever you have, so that your baby can be safe.
2006-12-20 04:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure your if your child is over 16 then it is legal to throw her out
2006-12-20 05:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-20 04:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dogs'r'us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the father
2006-12-20 04:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by hey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋