Ok so I snooped through my boyfriend's e-mail. He signed on to my computer and never closed it. I'm sorry!!! I know it's terrible, but I couldn't help it!
Ok i found two things that kind of bother me. One-he belongs to a porn membership site. He pays money and yet he always complains about money.
Two-he talks to his friend about how hot some bartender girl is and how they need to go "chat her up" next time he's in town (thank god his friend lives two states away).
Ok what do I do? Confront him or not? I feel like I can't confront him because I invaded his privacy yet how can I just keep quiet? I feel horrible. Help!
2006-12-19 20:29:48 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's human nature to be curious-don't beat yourself up over looking at his stuff; although it doesn't make it right. But you found what you found. He's horny, he's looking at porn on the web, and he's making plan's to possibly talk with some other female. ****, I'd tell him I snooped, found him out, and drop him like a hot dime.
2006-12-19 20:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Toni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to you and all of those girls who said "dump him"..
you all are so full of ****. No wonder "girls" dump everyone and everything that conflicts with "their" pre-conceived notions.
Yeah, uh huh, you never have bachelorette parties with strippers, or go to Chippendale's in Las Vegas.
He pays membership to a porn site.
BFD. He's a man.
Get over It for God's sake.
You should be so lucky.
He could be doing your sister.
Oh, and his friend that lives.. in your words, two states away
talking about a female bartender....
Give me a effing break.
How old are you?
Guys talk about female bartenders all the time!
Your boyfriend is completely normal....
you are the one with the problem that requires
"URGENT HELP".
Such as keeping your nose out of his business to start with.
Crap, what If he "even" looked inside of your purse....
Face It, you would lose your effing mind.
You should feel horrible.....
what If those so called "porn sites" were gay?
Leave him alone, he did NOTHING WRONG.
YOU DID, AND YOU NEED TO GROW UP.
PERIOD.
2006-12-19 21:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't you heard that what you don't know won't hurt you?? Well, what is done is done. Don't confront him...he' will hate you and not trust you again. Paying for porn.... c'mon he is a man, not a saint. Maybe he finds that fun. Different people have different choices of fun. As for the bartender, I just think it 's macho man talk. Some guys just talk like that for fun but actually don't do it. Some might say dump him.... without knowing the real story behind it? Should you execute a man if you have not found him guilty? Whatever happened to benefit of the doubt? Doesn't anyone have trust anymore?? Be optimistic okay........ Firstly you should ask yourself how is your relationship with him doing. Are you giving him enough excitement? You see, most women ask themselves why their man flirt. They should be asking themselves what they are doing to prevent it. If your relationship is good, then you don't have to worry about it.... Haven't you heard of the saying, if you can't win them, join them? so.......Just a suggesstion here, maybe you could buy him some porn books and pretend that you like to look at them as well, then perhaps he will slowly open up to you.....maybe there are somethings lacking in your sex life (that you don't know about)....I don't know but maybe you both could learn new things there and about each other and make your life much more exciting...and he won't have to go on the computer! If you love him...try it out...hey if it don't work out...at least you know you tried..... worry about that later....... I hope it works out for you though....good luck!!
2006-12-19 20:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cream 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just confront him. I think what he has been doing are worse than you snooping through his things. It's only human to get curious, and he was the one who didn't "protect" his privacy well enough, since he has so much to hide from you.
Confront him. That's what I'd do.
2006-12-19 21:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you might not realise it but the reason you snooped is beacause you don't trust him you might have convinced yourself you do but you don't. if he's the member of a porn site then its because he wants to see things he has'nt done with you or is to afraid to do with you cause he does'nt know how you'd react to whatever it is and as for the bartender hottie well it seems they're planning to screw her. maybe they want her to handle both of them at the same time cause guys always have fantasies and we can't stop that especially when they're keen on making it come true. so i say you tell him what you saw and see how he takes it and draw your conclusive action to how he reacts. you're either gonna dump him, forgive him or ask him to forgive you for snooping into his mail. the decision is yours so make it a wise one and don't let this situation degrade your self esteem or self portrait.
2006-12-19 20:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the first dick (Kast)
Hmm.. You could send his friend an email telling him that the bartender chick is out of bounds. That way your boyo will find out from his friend and not you. He may be too embarassed to even tell you about it, but he'll know. If I were you, I'd look around for a new boyo.
Or you could send him an email virus :)
All the best.
2006-12-19 20:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to confront him.
After all you already know and it's not like you can erase it from your mind. Besides he isn't being honest with you about things and that outways the privacy issue. That shouldn't be private in a relationship.
2006-12-19 21:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah! This is hard, girl. If i were you, i would prolly dump him before he gets the chance to lie to me.
Hmm, maybe he was just playful to pay money for porn sites, but yeh.. this sort of guys isn't worth it for you to put all your love on him.
Perhaps this relationship went well for long.... and you still are stucked on him.. try talkin bout it to him. Or smack him right on the face and tick him off. Haha.. Well, good luck.
2006-12-19 20:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why confront him?It wont change the truth,,nothing he can say will justify it,,he can stop doing this but will he & does he really want to~no.So whats the difference? Just dump him.Save yourself the aggravation of it all.
2006-12-19 20:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is key in relationships.
If you don't say anything, it will eat at you and really affect your relationship. You should also be honest about reading his emails. Maybe it was wrong, but you did it. Be honest with him and hopefully he'll be honest with you. If your relationship is strong, you'll make it through this. Good luck!
2006-12-19 20:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Katie P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋