as his granddad is ill. This is fine & understandable.
Anyway, he isn’t happy about me going away as it’s our first Xmas together, there are many reasons 2 why I’m going – I wont go into now, & he thinks I will just forget about him when there. Last night we started 2 argue in the pub, & he walked out, I followed him all the way home, as he wouldn’t get in the car.
We argued in his driveway 4 about an hour, & I told him I was going, as I couldn’t feel my toes anymore. Everything is two sided, but I do feel 4 most things I haven’t done anything wrong, I didn’t bring up Wales, I went over 2 him loads & gave him kisses & cuddles, but never really got any back. He is saying I couldn’t stop talking about going away, & that I just left him all night. His words “I forgot about him”. He also said it feels like I don’t need him in my life, I replied “no I don’t need u in my life, but I want u in it” & said that no1 should “need” someone, they should only want them.
What do I do?
2006-12-19 20:25:25 · 10 answers · asked by Jelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your bf is a drama queen, high maintenance, petulant boy.
He needs constant reassurance, that he's the absolute center of your world. If you want a lifetime of drama, stay with him. I'd run as fast as I can.
2006-12-19 20:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like problem goes a bit deeper than just feeling left out at the pub. Could there be a lot happening in your life at the moment that doesn't involve e.g. university or work. Maybe he feels like he's not a big part in your life anymore.
But what I'd like to point out is the whole "want" & "need" thing. I think you've got it wrong when you say you should never need someone, I think you do need someone in your life and you can't just call it a "want". Things I want are things I can live without, like I want a Ferrari, but I'm sure I'll still die a happy man if I never get to drive one in my entire life, so it's just a "want". But I also want to be with a partner whom I love and they love me back, but if I never found love then I'd die a very sad and lonely man, so that is more than something I want, it's something I need.
In regards to going away over Christmas, is it absolutely necessary you go away? Is your family in Wales? If you really have no choice and you are going to be apart over the holidays, try to make an extra special effort to let him know you're thinking about him.
Make sure you text him regularly while you are away, and give him a call on Christmas Day. If you exchange gifts before you go away, then promise each other not to open them until Christmas Day when you call, then you can both open them while you're on the phone to each other. On the subject of gifts, have you already got his? If not, then can a suggest getting something romantic. Now I know this seems odd to get a guy a romantic present, but it will help to underline your love for him. Obviously you're not going to get him a big fluffy rabbit with "I love you" stitched across the front, but it doesn't have to be girly to be romantic. Just remember you want something that will remind him of you, maybe something you could get engraved.
Just one last idea for you to try. Get a pack of small Christmas cards and write out about half a dozen or so to your boyfriend, in each one put a different message telling him how much you love him and how you miss him, stuff like that. Then hide them around the house for him to find while you're gone. You could put one under his pillow, one in his coat pocket, one in the fridge, places like that.
I hope this helps, and hope you have a great Christmas. :)
2006-12-19 21:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by DJ Rizla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy Wales
2006-12-19 21:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun there are two ways of looking at this.
1. From his side
Its your first xmas together and he probably was looking forward to spending it with you and possibly had loads of nice little ideas on what you two could get up to together etc etc. Now he cant spend it with you hes probably upset and is going to miss you loads and not too happy about the prospect of spending it away from the girl he loves. Hes also probably gutted about his grandad - hes sick and hes possible very worried about him.
2. From your side.
You two had plans made and now you're sticking to them You dont mention what your reasons for going are so its kinda hard to justify why you're willing to spend it with your mates over your boyfriend when he needs your support. Therefore its kinda awkward to talk about your side
But the bottom line is - your boyfriend sounds quite insecure and worried about the fact you're not willing to be with him - you say you're reassured him - maybe you should tell him that you're going to text and ring him loads whilst you're apart and you're not going to forget about him and promise that you'll make it up to him bigtime for new year.
Alternatively - if you love him enough - maybe you should spend xmas with him- remember his grandad is sick - hes probably upset about this and it would be a lovely loving gesture on your behalf to pick your boyfriend over this trip. xx
2006-12-19 20:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As my bf is really possessive I actually do understand - he needs reassurance everyday that he is the only one in my life - he wants me to feel that I cant live without him! Well what im saying is that you need to reassure him that you have to go but dint want to be without him!! He should just trust you!! He just loves you so much and wants to be with you!! You should text him if you feel the same way!!
2006-12-19 20:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to communicate inclusive of your buddy and discover out what is going on. She ought to easily be jealous that you're seeing someone if she's no longer(or perchance she likes the guy too), or mad about you no longer putting out inclusive of her as a lot anymore. do not assume this in spite of the undeniable fact that and accuse her of feeling this way. merely see if she will be able to allow you to recognize ideas she feels. communicate it out and discover time for both one among them. you may all attempt to loaf round and be buddies. you may not could opt for on between them. sturdy success!
2016-11-27 22:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by ayoub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it too him this way...
I know it's our first Christmas together but it could be your grandads last. I really want you to come but there's no way you would fit in the house as loads of family is coming over. Just think we have every Christmas ahead of us but your grandad may only have this one left. I'm really sorry but please don't be angry with me.
Good Luck!
2006-12-19 20:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jen (G cup UK) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to b butally honest do you need such a insicure person in your life it seems like ita a fairly new relationship which such be full of fun and laughter not needy me me me. you might not like this answer as i only know what you have said in your question but you never once mentioned you LOVE HIM or are in LOVE with him. ditch him move on
everybody take flags to arsenal
2006-12-19 20:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by phillip b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a control freak, dump him and get a man who doesn't throw his toys out of his pram when he doesn't get his own way
2006-12-19 20:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY
2006-12-19 20:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋