what do i do about this?

Question

ok my best best friend and we are almost sisters has a cousin. he likes me and i like him. we were together but we broke up becuase our parents would find out and we would be in trouble. we have eachothers email and were best friends. ive been to his house alot and hes been to mine, but why do i feel so weird for likeing my best friends cousin? me and him have alot in common and we were also born a few days apart which is weird lol. but please why do i always think about him and dream about him? is there still hope?? im 13 and so is he incase your wondering

Thank u so much :D

Answer 1

may be u r an adolescent

Answer 2

Well there is a number of reasons why you could be feeling weird, probably because he is the cousin of your best friend, but there really isn't anything wrong with you two liking each other, therefore if you both like each other and both want to become more than just friends then i would say go for it... hope this helps...

Answer 3

First of all, you are too young to get into anything serious. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with liking your best friend's cousin. Since you are still 13, I think it's best for you to listen to your parents’ advice and concentrate on your studies. You can keep in touch as friends now and when you are older and wiser, you can decide what’s best for you. And about that constant dreaming thing; find some other activity that you are interested in and occupy yourself with it. It usually goes away, but you have to try real hard!!!!!!
My advice to you is, just don’t get into anything serious. It might affect your future. And don’t do anything that you might regret for the rest of your life..

Answer 4

That's so sweet. But sweetheart this is puppy love, And it is nice. But if I where your father I would be upset too. I have two daughters, Who are 7 and 5 years old, And if they where your age I would tell them like I always do. Think about school and finish. Then I will send them to college. Then and only then will they be allowed to date young men. Because this guy may be Nice, But is he someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? I would hate to see someone as smart as you looking at life or even living life through a man's eyes. So be smart think about school and this feeling will pass in time.

Answer 5

Hmmm...I think the real answer to your question rests with why you'd be in trouble if the parents found out you were dating; I suspect it'd be because they feel you're too young.

And I'd lean towards understanding their feelings on the issue: 13 year olds should be carefully monitored if they are allowed to date; this confusion you speak of feeling justifies your parents concerns. After all: we all hear the tragic stories of early teen pregnancies---and worse--because they were given too much dating freedom and made those life long mistakes.

Don't focus too much on this confused state you're currently in, it's zinging hormones--God's pratical joke on us called puberty.

Look at things this way: you think you'd get into trouble if your parents found you liked this guy.....how much MORE trouble would you be if they found out you were sneaking around a romance w/ the guy???

Answer 6

you think and dream about him, becaz ur growing up girl! but this, doesn't tell, its time for you to love... u know y caz ur still growing u need to know more about urself! at the age of 18 or 19 u'll laugh at ur self about this, trust me!

ok here i'll give u some idea
i would say keep in touch with him in mails as a friend, and stop flirting with him, for a couple of years (ex 4yrs), lets c by then will u still like him or not.

remember that you have just started to explore things around u, thats all!

Answer 7

well I understand where your coming from, I know what it is like to have crushes, having been your age at one time. And maybe this will be hard for you to listen to or accept: but please try.
Some of the others here have indicated and alluded to the importance of putting education first. I would concur wholeheartedly with these statements. I hope you can learn the importance of this sooner, rather than later. Your education is what is going to be your meal ticket to a better life for yourself, for a better future. Take it seriously. Don't take it for granted.

You might think such things as, "i hate school" or "I hate this class/all this homework/this teacher" or what have you. But please. Education is a privilege that we have in this country, a privilege that many other countries only wish they had. These other countries have little to no hope. Please, don't take your education for granted. In just a few short years, you will be graduating from high school, then what will you do? Hopefully by that time you will have developed a record of good grades and participated in activities that will help you look good to the college you want to get into. So that you can BE somebody. Like a doctor, psychologist, teacher, (fill in the blank). DREAM about who you want to become. Then realize you CAN be that person you want to be. You are MORE than some clown's arm candy.

Any guy that tries to treat you as less than the person you feel you can be should be tossed to the curb immediately. Think about school. I'm not saying don't have crushes. I think that having a crush or crushes on somebody is probably an expected physiological response that comes naturally with puberty. It's kind of inevitable. But AGAIN it is just a physiological response, kind of like when you salivate when smelling freshly baked bread, or when your eyes water in response to an onion. Just because you have these feelings, doesn't mean you need to impulsively follow through and run over to see the person. Heck, even as adults we get crushes like that. But do we immediately jump over to the person every time they walk through the door? (well some might, but I'm not talking about those) Usually, as adults we carry those feelings with us, and in time the feelings usually fade. We have to test our feelings. For example, I might get a mad crush on a new coworker, and kind of hold it inside. After a llittle while of getting to know him, I might find out that he has a terrible habit of picking his nose, or saying rude things to people, or something like this. You've heard of the saying, "love is blind"? Well that applies to people who are impulsive and who "think with their heart" rather than with their head. They don't take a good honest look at the person. think about this: If you really wanted a decent, honorable kind of young man, a young man who would be faithful and honest, why would you hang around with this boy who makes you sneak around and lie to your parents? If you feel creepy about it, maybe it's because you're going against your conscience and what you know is right. Listen to those feelings. If he really were a decent person he would never consider getting you to sneak around. He is just trying to get something from you, and then just walk away. Don't spend one more minute of your energy thinking about him, because he isn't worth it.

Answer 8

you are 13. Why subject yourself to this drama. Make it easy on yourself and listen to your parents. They love you and want what is best for you. Focus on making yourself better (education, etc).

Answer 9

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