I will reach 30 and I'm still not married and with no children. Why do I sometimes feel proud of myself?

Question

that I reached this age without "baby mama drama", but I also feel like I'm missing something. It's like sometimes I see guys younger then me who already have kids and I say to myself "sigh, good thing I didn't have kids young" but there is also a side of me that wishes I had a wife and kids. Why do I keep contradicting myself so much?

Answer 1

I know what you mean, the reason is the horror stories of kids having kids failed marriages and so on. So to make it to a pivotal age and have no baggage is an accomplishment.

So be proud.

Answer 2

I waited until I was 37 to get married...and the wife and I are expecting our first kid now that I'm 40 (she's 31).

Like you, I had no baby mama drama. I have no problems like that, no alimony payments, no bull. My wife doesn't have any of these issues either.

By NOT having kids or getting married until a little later in life, we find ourselves much more capable of dealing with it emotionally, socially, and financially.

We also felt like we were 'missing something' but we didn't want to mess it up. Now we are capable of really looking forward to it since we know we can handle it. This marriage and the children it will produce are the most important things in life now. Previously, it was other stuff like work, travel, having fun, etc. Now the career is set up, I've seen the world, and I've had lots and lots of fun...so I can settle into the family thing.

30 is good - But make sure your career and everything is set before having kids. You've got to keep them fed and clothed, and you want to have a good house to raise them in. Keep being smart, and you'll be a better parent when the time comes.

In the meantime, enjoy your nieces, nephews, and your friends' kids!

Keep up the good work..!

Answer 3

I am 32 with a child separated. I love my child dearly but I envy people who don't have a child or is married yet. I think that a part of you would like to have the married life with a child but something is holding you back. I see nothing wrong in takeing time to make sure that you end up with the right person. Too many people including myself has jumped right into a relationship and in the end it didn't work out.

I don't regret having my child but I think things would of worked out better if I would of took my time instead of rushing.

Your still young so don't worry about it. I think 30's is a good age to settle down, but never rush because you feel that your getting older.

If you feel that your missing something try being a big brother, sister in the Big Brother/Sister Program. Just a thought.

Answer 4

it's human nature. I am 26 with no kids and at times i really want to have a baby but sometimes when my sister calls me about problems finding a baby sitter or having a dilemma picking the kids up from daycare or she doesn't have time to go out i swear i don't want any children. but then i have to remember that's the reason I'm here and that my experience as a mother does not have to be like other peoples and just hope for the best WHEN i get ready to have kids

Answer 5

you should be very proud of yourself. There are very many young men and women within society today bringing children into this world with multiple fathers and mothers. And how can one person take care of so many children. Perhaps you are now getting to the point where you are feeling ready to find a women and settle down and begin a family. Go with your heart. There is some good women out there waiting on you! Good luck and God bless****

Answer 6

you are free now . in india after a marriage the wife controls the husband anyway you are free like a bird now.enjoy your freedom.
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
enjoy it and be proud.

Answer 7

its the law of nature