Ok so I'm white American and my GF is Korean. I allow her freedome to hang out with her Korean friends. That's good. Tonight she was telling me that she forgot how affectionate Korean guys are. She said her Korean guy friends are always touching her hands and her hair and all that. I think they are hitting on her and she insists that its only a cutlure thing. I'm not jealous. They have nothing on me, but I want to know if its true that Korean guys touch and feel as part of thier culture. That would mean they touch and feel girls as much as guys. Can any Korean's offer an opinion ??
2006-12-19 20:04:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi,
I have been living in Korea for about 5 years, so i can provide you some good information about Koreans in KOREA.
In Korea, touching one another (in everyway & everywhere - butt, boobs, in sauna when u r nude) is an expression of warmth & care, and people do so on a regular basis. However, it is strictly confined to people of the same sex or couples (boyfriend/girlfrind), or may be siblings, relatives like mother-son etc.
In general, boys & girls do not touch one another. Actually, Koreans dont have any concept of pure friendship (without sex) between a guy & a girl. Here if u r spotted even walking along with a person of opposite sex ALONE, u r assumed to be dating him/her (even in Seoul and top colleges & universities here).So forget about any guy touching a girl if he is not sexually interested in her.
However, there is something u might like to know about Korean society & dating in general. Korean men & women usually get introduced & date through a dating procedure called 'soketing & meeting', in which they all get drunk, touch each other, have sex & next day end up as either girlfriend-boyfriend if they r single, or cheating their partners if they r already in a relationship.
In other words this is a very common way to meet ur future girlfriend/boyfriend, or have a small extra-marital affair (which is actually a very common & core part of Korean society. In Korean marriages having affairs is common & doesnt threaten the marriage. These days it is changing a bit though).
In answer to ur question, Korean guys don't touch girls if they r not their girlfriend or if they r not hitting on her.
This answer might not be applicable to Koreans brought up outside Korea, but for Koreans in Korea, trust me on this, and take care of ur girlfriend!
2006-12-22 22:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not Korean either but I was stationed there for 2 years. Yes, in the Korean culture, guys do a lot of touching as a part of their communication. They touch your hands, hair, and back. It's all in their culture. That's just they way they are. Hope this helps.
2006-12-19 23:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by new18000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i am korean, and i lived in Korea, so i'll try to answer your question.. I don't think touching and feeling is part of our culture, but some guys (including my friends) liked to touch their girlfriends because they loved their girlfriends. Korean guy would never touch someone they don't know.. just so you know. and not all korean men touch their girls. Some guys just keep their hands to themselves. BTW ive seen many americans guys(black, white) touching their girlfriends..???
2006-12-21 07:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by shp.4656 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a cultural thing....I worked for a wonderful Korean family...my boss never touched me, however my manager, a guy did all the time. He would walk in the room and stroke my arm, if I rubbed my neck he would start massaging it....My bosses wife did this too, which was ok 'cause I knew she really cared about me. I didn't realize until I read your post that Byong was just being Korean.
2006-12-20 02:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooo, that's not true. I'm Korean and have lived here since i was born!! I don't think touching and feeling is part of our culture...?! my guy friends never touch girls' hands and hair.. unless they go out together..?!
2006-12-21 16:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by chuckstephan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a Korean girlfrend once and hear the same thing.
In Korean culture, it's quite normal for a guy to touch a woman. Often they'll go so far as to squeeze her butt or touch her breasts. They'll also kiss a woman friend or acquaintence on the lips with their mouths open. But this is just the norm - their way of being friendly.
It's also just a cullture thing that these guys will put their hand down a girls pants and feel her genitals. Just being friendly.
Again, that's what my korean girlfriend used to tell me, and, you know, I'm not part of her culture so I belived her.
2006-12-19 20:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ross L 2 · 0⤊ 7⤋
LOL. I went to Korea once and I noticed the guys there really like to touch their girlfriends. hahaa.
2006-12-19 20:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by HahaYou'rePwned! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋