I had recently been contacted by my first love that I haven't heard from in 8 months. We had dated for 3 years. His father passed away and he asked that I'd come to the wake. I went to pay my respects, and I found out that he is dating someone new, I am single, but it never bothered me until now. We ended our relationship on good terms and I'm not sure if I should try and keep in touch with him now, because he most likely will be depressed for a long time. He lived with his father his whole life, until now. He did break my heart however many times, but I still care for him. What should I do? Please help me?
2006-12-19 20:03:29 · 8 answers · asked by Lunita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do what you feel right and what is best for you..donot let him use you , just because you care for him.. but donot make any effort from ur side to be in touch.. donot let your emotions tangled up with sympathy n kindness...
he already has someone to support him and be in his side....
2006-12-19 20:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by hi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he contacted you about the passing of his father...then perhaps that means he expects that you would want to pay your respects. A three year relationship is quite a long one, and if your ex lived with his father throughout this time, I'm sure you got to know him (the father) quite well, and in order to show that you have no hard feelings towards your ex or his father, it might be best you go. I"m sure it will be hard though, being with some one for such a long time is hard to "get over," but I'm sure if the situation was turned you would probably want him to attend the wake of your loved one. Still it's totally up to you, and if you don't feel comfortable, maybe you could explain it to him so he understands why you are declining the invitation.
2006-12-19 20:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by kefirasmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must like your heart to be broken. By all means keep in touch with your no good cheating ex-boyfriend.Remember how it felt when he broke your heart you didn't like it did you,so why are you going to be the cause of him braking his girlfriends heart. Leave him alone .
2006-12-19 20:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support him as a friend because grief can be hard to bear.At a time like this it is good to be surrounded by good friends.You do not have to see him all the time.
2006-12-19 20:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do call him - just be a friend. He is dating someone so if he needed your shoulder to cry on he would call you. Remember he did break your heart before. Don't allow it to happen again.
2006-12-19 20:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Yonni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to be friends with him right now, then don't be. it'd be dishonest to just be there for him because you feel sorry for him though it hurts you.
you paid you respects and a nice letter once in a while wouldn't hurt, but you're not responsible for how he feels (you never were, actually).
2006-12-19 20:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be on your merry way. You know this is not a good choice.
2006-12-19 20:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from that
2006-12-19 20:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by nadaclue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋