We worked and studied for 10 months in different parts of the world. She was "the one" in my heart. Prior to this, we had spent 2 amazing years together. We were talking marriage. A few months ago, we planned this romantic holiday in Paris.
I flew 5000 km.
Upon arriving in her city in order to go on this 10 day holiday with her, I could feel a huge change in her. She admitted having a relationship with an ex-boyfriend, a man who had rejected her 4 years prior. She begged me to forgive her and to go on this trip to Paris together... But she did admit to wanting to spend 6 weeks near his home afterwards. I refused to go on to Paris with her and left her there after 3 days of crying in some hotel in the UK.
This is the love of my life.
Now, 3 weeks later, she text messages me and calls me (I now live in Asia) every 2 or 3 days saying things like "i worry about you" or "I just wanted to hear your voice".
What's going on? What does she want from me now?
2006-12-19 19:41:10 · 6 answers · asked by Gypsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You called her on her crap and left her the hell alone! You did the right thing son! Do you know how few guys are able to do that? I don't know how long you were together . . . maybe she was right to move on. If you were only dating for like a month or two, for example, she might not be attached to you enough to endure such a long separation. But in any case . . . this indicates a lack of interest on her part. No matter how long you were together, there is no excusing that when you left with the understanding that she would still be your girlfriend when you got back.
What does she want? The way I see it, there are only three possible things she could want at this point:
1) Things aren't going so great with the other guy, so she's trying to get her ducks in a row, so to speak. She wants you as a backup.
2) You hurt her ego by not playing along with her game. Now she wants to see if she can get you to play it with her again. Don't do it.
3) VERY UNLIKELY: She knows how much that hurt you, and learned her lesson.
I would not have anything more to do with her if I were you. Good night!
2006-12-19 20:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its really very very painful, she is confused too, she was always, but the thing is that she cheated on u, wen u were not living together, so even if she cares bout u or thinks bout u, it shud not make difference to you, you shudnt b confused, the decision u have taken is correct, and u shud not allow her to come back to ur life, u will always b thinking wen u not with her, " is she doing something..." so move on, hope it helps
2006-12-19 19:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by hmmm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 13:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's feeling guilty, and is trying to ease that guilt by making sure you're o.k. Pretty selfish girl. I'd find someone who can keep their legs closed while you're away for 10 months.
2006-12-19 19:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her what she wants. If she is moving on then you need to do the same. Ever heard the quote " If you love something set it free, If it comes back to you its yours, If it doesn't it was never meant to be"
2006-12-19 20:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Yonni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that ex-boyfrind dumped her again. watever it is u dont need a person who just messes around people's life. u deserver better than this.
i think she was not sure abt anything in life. u better leave her
2006-12-19 19:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋