No matter how early we put her to bed, every morning is a fight to get her up for school, she is nine. No she is not being bullied and after 7 a.m she is fine. Am at my witts end! HELP!
2006-12-19 18:40:44 · 21 answers · asked by Chelle C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Hi there !!! I would start some special routine your princess can look foward doing with you in the morning. It need not be complex, simple yet appealing. Lets say make breakfast together, or get ready in the bathroom together, or have a nice warm cup of tea together, mommy time, just before we all leave for the day. I would also sit down with her, since she is nine, and have a heartfelt conversation with her. I would let her know how you would love to spend some quality time in the morning with her, instead of having this tug of war to get her out of bed, explain to her how better she would feel getting up with the promise of mommy time, wow, that is awesome.
Children are like wildflowers in a beautiful open field. We see them grow and gently sway in the wind. They are quick like wildfire, yet gentle like a summers breeze.
They grow so fast in this crazy world we live in. Many times they are just as worried with allt he craz events that go on inthis world, but do not know how to express verbally their feelings.
I wish I could turn back the hands of time, and have my children living with me. I would do so many things with them, enjoy them more, and let them feel how much I want to share with them my life, how important they are to me ( I did show them that and more,) and how much they are loved, all though that was a no brainer, and they knew how loved they were and are to this day.
For you I would pamper myself for a change to unwind. Draw yourself a nice hot bath, put candles around the bathtub, nice music in the backround ( remember radios and water do not mix) a nice cup of herbal tea, and just unwind. put some nice smelling lotion on your skin, wrap your body with a plush towel, put some cozy socks on, get a haircut, do something for yourself. Many times we are so stressed that we allow things to get to us more than what they should.
You could also hold her responsible for not getting up. Let her know you love and adore her, but just the same way you have to get up and do so many things, she must get up and receive and education that is for her own good and personal growth for the future.
Wishing you the best of luck
Happy holidays
love light and peace
2006-12-19 18:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have actually used a spray bottle of water and sprayed my girls in the face to get them up.
Mine used to be that way in the morning, until I set a rule that for each morning they wouldn't get up on time, they had to go to bed 30 min earlier. After about 4 days which equaled 2 hrs earlier for bedtime, they snapped out of it.
Also, don't stop bugging them until they get up, feet on the floor, standing up. Throw the covers off the bed, take the pillow out from underneath their head, jump up and down on the bed, do whatever it takes to get them up on time. Kids get into a habit of not getting up, and it's hard to break the longer it goes on. Don't give up, don't give in. Do whatever it takes! Can you imagine the trouble you're gonna have when the teenage years are here?? Break the habit now.....
**Good Luck!!
2006-12-20 04:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had this problem with our daughter too...she is also nine....we put an alarm clock in her room....we set it for half an hour earlier than she had to get up and we put it across the room from her bed so when it went off on buzzer she had to get up and walk across the room to turn it off...eventually she would get up....it took about a week to two weeks but she gets up in the mornings now...and its now set to music....
2006-12-20 02:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get the bugle recording they play at camps.
2. Ring the dinner bell 15 minutes after morning taps.
2006-12-20 00:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trained our dog to wake the kids up when they were young - after I told the dog to wake up the kids, she would go into each of the bedrooms and pull on the covers, nudge their hands and feet, and literally bug them out of bed. Also, we set the time for bed a few minutes earlier each night for about three weeks before school started for the year and would wake them up a few minutes earlier each morning until we were on the needed schedule. By the time they were in 2nd grade they were getting up on their own though. By the way, make her get up even on weekends, as it is more difficult each Monday if you don't. My mom pulled a trick on me once, and I got up after that. I missed the bus as I stayed in bed, and she was going to take me to school in my pajamas. I grabbed my clothes and put them on in the car on the way there! I had no breakfast, didn't get to brush my teeth, and my hair was a mess. After feeling awful all day and looking hideous, I started making an effort (and yes, she would have made me go to school in those pj's). She was not mean about it, she just said matter-of-factly "if you don't get ready on time, then you will have to go as you are". My mom then got me an alarm clock and made me responsible for my own actions - at 9 your daughter is old enough for that. Get her one and then follow through. She will learn after she misses breakfast or has to rush around to get ready after not getting up when she needs to. You don't have to get mad or be mean about it, my kids are now grown and I never bullied them or yelled about it. They are great adults with children of their own, and do well in the parent department. You can always put a reward on her getting up as well, something special at the end of the week if she has gotten up on her own each day. It is a lot more relaxing than fighting with her!
2006-12-19 19:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Chelle,
You can try being creative...:)
My two girls, aged 6 and 8 are just like yours.
I always wake them up reminding them of one exciting thing that they really like, to look forward to during the day.
Can be something mundane like drawing in class today, or Tom & Jerry on TV in the afternoon...
If none of them come to mind, I always mention the upcoming weekend where we could be doing something that they really like.
The idea behind it is that the mind, even if you are feigning sleep, starts looking forward to the event(s), and in 5 to 10 mins, is so hyped up about the activity, that sleep is not really what children want to do anyway...:) Mine get up alert and looking forward to the day...
I do allow them to sleep late on the weekends, though.
Hope that helps.
2006-12-19 18:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by ronniejacob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have the same problems here at our house--we are a family of night owls. Our routine looked like this when my daughter was 9 years old. I go in and tell my daughter it is time to wake up, then I ask her if she wants a "One minute." She has to nod her head or say "yes" out loud, then I leave her alone for one minute. Then I go back and tell her that her one minute is up and it is time to wake up. She will then get up and get dressed and ready for school.
Some people take longer to completely wake up. I'd hate to tell you how many times I hit the snooze button myself. Its all good as long as you allow enough time for it.
2006-12-19 18:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by explorerkade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are very difficult to wake up the old fashion ways, in my experience, I've learned the old clique, you get more bees with honey then vinegar!! I lay down next to them, which ever child I am working on, cuddle them, kiss there cheek and rub their face very gently, whisper "Good morning princess" it time to wake up. Find what makes them smile, a tickle on the neck, side, tummy, but gently wake them. It gets them up in a GOOD MOOD, not grouchy like they use to. I learned to slow down and start a little earlier so they will be happy to get up in time. That is how I like to be woke up, wouldn't you.
2006-12-19 19:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by zekemarie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just tell my son "Get up for school" he does it. By nine she should know to get up. Is she going to bed very late? That may be why she's not getting up on time.
2006-12-20 04:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could believe after having brushed their tooth daily, two times an afternoon for eight (or eleven) years that they would work out that they need to brush their tooth. However, I need to remind my youngsters daily additionally so it need to be ordinary! We have attempted portraits on the toilet reflect, chore charts and extra however not anything turns out paintings besides my telling them to get in there and brush ALL their tooth.
2016-09-03 17:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋