Did u get any benefit?
What is ur advice for others?
2006-12-19 18:36:25 · 6 answers · asked by الحقيقة 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My husband and I went for marital counseling within a couple years of being married. Our priest was a close personal friend so he sent us to a Christian Counseling Center at another local church. It was the worst experience of my life. We were told that we had to tell "everything" to him and each other or he couldn't help us. I thought to myself that Dear Abby would say sometimes it's better to be quiet and not hurt someone if possible. I didn't listen because I really wanted to work out the problems. Like the young, naive fool I was, I revealed something better left unsaid. The Counselor was young and too inexperienced to handle the fallout. He referred us to an older man who had us come in separately to work on our issues and then once a week to meet together. He sat there, smoking his many pipes, and gave no advice on how to repair the damage already done and how to change the patterns disrupting our marriage. We eventually stopped going, but I went to yet another Christian Counselor. Nice man, but all he wanted to do was pray. I needed concrete help, not nebulous prayers that I was already saying.
I eventually smartened up and went to a psychologist. We talked through the issues and I began to understand why I had engaged in destructive behavior (there was an underlying mental issue I wasn't aware of). I wasn't put on medication, just talk therapy. I'd come home and share with my husband what I'd learned about myself. In time we were both able to say we'd contributed to our problems by not communicating and letting our families come between us. The damage was done, however, and the marriage never really did recover. Suspicion and doubts on both sides remained.
My advice is stay away from them. They are so absorbed in Biblical teaching that they don't realize people live in a more secular world than they do. We're prone to temptations and weaknesses they may never have faced. If you're a Christian and want to read the Bible for comfort, fine. If you want practical advice on living in today's world, see a licensed therapist who doesn't carry baggage with him. Of course, if you're seeking advice on entering a religious lifestyle, then yes, you would want a Christian Counselor. Other than that, to me they're the plague.
2006-12-19 19:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was going to until I found Christian counseling for my depression... now still seeking for help and truth while I am still going to the Christian faith.. A little but not a enough benefit.
My advice is keep on talking to God and other people then move on...
2006-12-20 06:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a religious answer, Christian counseling is fine. If you're looking for a psychiatric answer, stick to mainstream forms of therapy.
I didn't actually go to any therapy, it was an ex-girlfriend of mine.
2006-12-20 02:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by RabidBunyip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a Christian, my spouse and I were in Christian counceling.
When I was a Christian, I was in Christian counceling on my own as well.
I am no longer married.
I am no longer a Christian.
Does that help?
2006-12-20 02:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes Premarital and it was awesome...
Depends on what kind of counseling...
If it is worldy then you will get worldy advice...
Which worldy advice is probably what you want to hear...
"Your not in sin you just have latinwordosis... "
But if you want godly advice go to your pastor...
2006-12-20 02:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by floyd 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
every day..thank GOD..i always get a benefit,especially when i get on my knees and ask.Advise for others?..get on your knees and ask.
2006-12-20 02:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋