I am really confused at the moment. I have known this girl for a long time, we have been great friends. But just of late we have become really close, like we would talk all the time, send messages to each other, we even do stuff with each others families. Friends of ours have seen pictures we have taken, seen how we talk, and constantly ask if we are going out, some people just assume we are going out. Ok so after a bit I kind of fell for her, but I never let her know, cause I am pretty sure she wants to be friends, witch is totally fine with me, that's why I never asked her out. I rather be good friends with her than her just acting all weird around me. Anyway as of late she only sometimes responds to my emails, messages and even when I call her, the phone call only lasts a couple mins, not compared to the hour long convos.
2006-12-19 18:31:46 · 11 answers · asked by Bruce T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am really lost, I have never really had a proper GF, because I find I become really close with the girls, and it gets to the point where the girl and I just want to be friends. I am really bad at interpreting if a girl likes me or not.
I asked her to come out next week to a party I also told her that I had to talk to her and this is what I am going to talk to her about. Whether I had done something wrong, etc.
2006-12-19 18:34:06 · update #1
I agree. You say she just wants to be friends, but did you ask her. The reason she has not been talking with you as much is because she has been waiting on you to make the move and now she feels that maybe you don't like her that away. Or she has found someone else she knows is interested in her and has given up on you!! When you get her alone ask her if she has ever thought about you and her, but let her know that if she don't it is ok with you!!! Let her know you wanted to make sure but want to be her friend no matter what. be honest with her but don't come on to strong. And asking her what is wrong and that you notice that you guys haven't been talking as much is a good way to start the conversation. Will help you go into the fact that you like her!! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-19 18:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... There might be 3 cases.
Firstly, she loves someone else and she doesn't want that special person to think that you and her are an item. In this case, give her space to be who she is and wish her the best. If you are any friend at all, be happy for her.
Secondly, she likes you and she's tired of you not initiating the relationship to the next level. So she may be trying to push you to a corner and force you to pop the question. However, be mindful that if you mis-read the signs and pop the question, your friendship with her is as good as gone.
Thirdly, she just doesn't want everyone to mistake her friendship with you as a intimate relationship. If that's the case, respect her decision. When everything cools down, talk to her about it. And take a step back. Remember, you and her are friends, nothing more.
The ultimate answer is:
She wants to slow down, for some reason. Find a chance to talk to her about it. Ask her why she is doing this and tell her to be honest with you because you WILL respect her decision. If she wants to put a stop to the friendship, accept it. If she avoids you like the plague, accept that this is the end of you and her.
I hope that there will be a good ending and wish you best.
2006-12-19 18:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bjorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either 1) she was interested in you and hung around waiting for you to make a move... and you didnt so she has moved on... or 2) she just lost intrest in you.. you still have a chance but you need to talk to her and tell her that you miss the way things were and ask how you can spend time and talk like you did before and when she does dont wait so long to show some feelings just say you know i like hanging with you then hint that you like to do it more often and then hint to dating... its about slow but not snail speed lol
2016-05-22 23:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her about her recent behavior? Are their any external problems that she is going through to cause this behavior towards you? Did you say anything to make her mad? If I were you, I'd talk to her about it. If she doesn't give you a clear answer, try talking to her about it again and telling her how you feel. If this behavior still goes on, you can still be her friend, but move on with the rest of your life. Another thing, if you've gotten really close and if she's been hurt before, she might be scared of getting hurt again.
2006-12-19 18:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by daughtofthking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same problem i had to the point ok see what your going to do is talk to her like u said but don't tell her the way you feel because it seems to me that she really likes you as a friend(like my onw story) and if you get a GF don't for get her just because you have found a girl still keep in touch(that is where i ****** up).
2006-12-19 18:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by lad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that maybe she wanted you to make a move but just got tired of waiting?? Either that or she found someone else...that's why she doesn't to keep in touch so much....If she is still available and you like her then tell her for god's sake! It's a normal reaction for girls to create a space if they are tired of waiting...well at least as a friend she still tries to talk to you a little...so she definately doesn't hate you there. She's probably just lost hope......go for it and tell her....good luck!!
2006-12-19 18:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, it takes two to have a boy-girl relationship. You said you fell for her; but the question I would like to ask is does she feel likewise? If not, you are just good, or at most great, friends. The feelings must be mutual for a boy-girl relationship to go from "friendship" to "steady". God bless you!
2006-12-19 18:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably creeped her out and she doesn't even want to be your friend anymore. But can guys really be friends with girls? Why are guys and girls only nice to the opposite sex that are esthetically pleasing? Hmmmmm... something to ponder about.
2006-12-19 18:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think long-think wrong!
Don't put too much emphasis in it...you'll lose so much energy from it and it will wear you down. Don't even try to understand or figure it out...just take it the way it is and don't stress it. Please, go find someone else...someone that shows interest and w/out the drama!
2006-12-19 18:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either she doesn't want people to think you are an item, thereby killing her dating life... or she has developed a dating life that does not include you.
2006-12-19 18:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋