I feel like we're years apart even though we're the same age. I love him but how can I tell him he needs to start acting his age and pay more attention to me instead of video games, he's 20 years old and won't even look for a job for cryin out loud!
2006-12-19 18:15:45 · 22 answers · asked by Foxy Lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Theres nothing wrong with video games but he needs to get a job. Its hard to push these type of people I know because I am one. I got a job but I hate it even though its great pay and I would rather sit at a PC or PS2,gamecube,PS3,wii,dreamcast,T.V or even a crappy xbox then go to work or even go outside lol well maybe I am not that bad.
First of make him get a job take sex away but that would only be punishing yourself.
2006-12-19 18:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him exactly what oyu told us on here I thought you were very well-spoken! He needs to grow up and if he isn't willing to behave in a way that is appropriate for his age then you deserve better....he needs to grow up or he does not deserve you. Tell him that you are a woman and you need a man...a real man or he can go find someone else...someone who also enjoys being a jobless bum that sits on the couch all day playing video games.
2006-12-20 02:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by erinboberin21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright well to answer ur question.............go "grow up" its not that hard, if you really want to the rel to work you have to be completely honest and if you cant do that then you are the problem.
But another response to ur question...its perfectly fine if this guy pays attn to video games, there is nothing wrong with that at all and you need to quit being so damn selfish. He pays attn to his video games for a reason, he likes them they are interesting, if you love and care about him why try and take that away from him? Maybe he should go look for a job but hell i dont kno his situation, if he doesnt truly need it then who cares...girls like you are the reason relationships do not work, to attn needy and try and get pissed b/c a guy is interested in something else that youre not...
2006-12-20 02:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by wcbaseball4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG i know how you feel - there's this guy i've been crushing on for a while. I've been "cool"/friends with him for about a few years prior. I don't know why but there was something about him that i liked. (and YES, ALL HE DOES IT PLAY VIDEO GAMES...even when i'd talk to him on the phone for 1 minute...there's a freakin video game!) At one point, i just looked at him soo differently because he wouldn't act his age. He's 20 also and he's doing NOTHING with his life and OF COURSE, girls are more mature at this stage in life when it comes to dating and boys. It feels like you're 10 years older than him, right? Well, it was hard for me because it's like i really cared for the guy but his "attitude" and immaturity was in the way. I'm sorry to say but i don't think there's any way for him to grow up the way you want him to anytime soon. Boys take longer with stuff like that - so i'm with you...i'm waiting 'til they grow up. You can tell him over and over to get a job and maybe he will - but don't expect more from that. I'm sorry girl - i feel for you...i'm on your side - good luck!
2006-12-20 02:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Video games are a man thing lately, apparently. My son, 15, husband 32, and Dad, 64 all play video games. It never ends. And you can't tell a man to grow up. You're stuck with what you've got, unless you pick another one. Really sorry for that crappy answer! :)
2006-12-20 02:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him to get a job or its over. if he doesnt want to take some of his time to get a job so you and he can have a life together then he doesnt want a life together. he is a child and nothing you say is going to make him change. he has to do it on his own. if you dump him (and he really cares about you) he will get a job, keep at it for awhile, get finaces in order, then come back to prove it to you and beg you to take him back. so you can do that or live with him like that forever and never have anything. the choice is yours. or you can be like me and destroy the video game system with a hammer. im sorry but i hate immature guys
2006-12-20 02:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video games will be more important then you for the next 10 to 15 years, so get used to it. If you want him to pay attention to you, get an account on Everquest and World of Warcraft and make a sexy woodelf girl cleric who can follow him around and heal him and resurrect him when he dies.
2006-12-20 02:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
tell him grow up and get a job or I'm gone. then actually do it. If he really wants to be with you he will lesion and he'll start paying more attention to you. But you have to understand if he doesn't want to change he won't.
2006-12-20 02:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, men mature slower than men. The best way to do this is kindly. Dont let him think you are attacking him or starting a fight with him. Use phrases like " I feel.......it hurts me when......etc" Tell him you aren;t happy and if he loves you he will wake and see whats going on. if he doesn't, leave him and date an older man who is more mature.
2006-12-20 02:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love him but he's not worth your love. For crying out loud, ditch him. The only way for him to grow out is to let him realise that he needs to be responsible for himself and the people who cares about him.
2006-12-20 02:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bjorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋