Should I be mad?

Question

I'm pissed off @ my boyfriend for going to see his ex girlfriend at the bar where she works at because we got in a fight & I told him to leave(meaning to "cool" down) & the 1st things he does are...1st off went to about 3 or 4 different bars & proceeded to get TANKED! Then his last stop was where his ex of 5 years was working at...So then after several hours he finally decides to call me & i went & picked him up not knowing thats where she worked...he comes stumbling out the door of her work & i had seen her in there & knew who it was(omg, I was/am pissed about that~!)...so he gets in & is like munching on this oriental taffy that you can only get at an oriental market & i asked him where he got it & he said he got it @ the Dollar Store...(right!)...so I didnt question it any more & drove home,. A few days later he must of forgotten what he had told me about it & says that his ex gave it to him that night,said she got it at the $ store,not! oriental markets only! so WTF?

Answer 1

I can sort of relate to this because in the beginning of our relationship, during one of our arguments my boyfriend left and later told me he had gone to see his ex at work. I was pretty pissed myself. I told him that it really hurt me that the first place he ran was to her. He told me that nothing happened. We talked about it and in the end it was okay. You should just sit down with him and talk about it. Let him know how it makes you feel, and ask him if there is some reason he felt like he wanted to see her. I have been with my bf almost a year now, and I have learned that getting mad and upset doesn't really help any situation. When there is an issue, you both need to sit down and talk about it. Not communicating with one another is what causes problems in relationships. I understand totally, why you are mad, but look at it this way...he ended up calling you, it could have been a worse outcome, especially since he was drunk. Just talk to him, express your feelings and if he isn't willing to take you seriously or offer some kind of serious response, you may value your relationship more than he does and you may want to get out. Bottom line, just sit down and talk to him. Staying mad, fighting, and yelling really solves nothing. Good luck.

Answer 2

You tell him if it ever happens again that you will leave his A**. That you will not deal with it. The fact that he went to bars you could have dealt with, but the fact he went to the bar his ex girlfriend worked at and then called you to pick him was over the line. let him know that he is able to get out of the house and cool off anywhere but where he knows his ex will be at. The fact he lied also makes it harder for you!! And girl if it ever happens again.Leave his A**. Because if you don't your setting yourself up to be used!! Good Luck!!!


Oh and yes you do have the right to be mad!! But if your going to forgive then you need to forget it. If you bring it up all the time it will hurt the relationship. Just tell him you forgive him and you will not deal with it happening again and leave it at that. Then if it happens again leave him and tell him I warned you!!!!!

Answer 3

If he is lying, call him on it and leave him. If you trust him then shut up about it.

Its not lying idiots that are to blame 100%, it takes two to stay in a lying relationship. Why waste time in a relationship that isn't one. Might as well be single.

Answer 4

Be mad as hell...be p'd at the world, yell at the wind...scream as loud as you can...then relax-it's no big deal. You'll be fine, honey...he isn't cheating (IMHO). He called you, right? He probably just wanted to get you jealous and he's probably glad you picked him up...

Answer 5

I seriously doubt if anything happened between the two of them. Let it go.

Answer 6

yes you should be pissed and rightfully so. call him on the lying and then ditch the silly s.o.b.