Ok so me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship (talking about getting married and our future together). Well he is going to turn 21 in 10 days and I'm a little bit nervous. He's never been into drinking, and I definately don't like it. I know he's not going to become some drunk party guy, thats just not who he is, but why do I have this feeling like he'll change. I know I shouldn't be like this and that I should trust him when he says he won't become like that, but something in the back of my mind is telling me that I need to be careful. It makes me sad. I love this guy so much, yet I'm having these worries that he's going to want to drink alot. Is this a typical relationship problem or am I just too naive?
2006-12-19 17:51:43 · 15 answers · asked by cowgurlz010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think its the whole drinking thing. deep down it probably signifies to you that he is now an adult. before he was still a teenager to you because he wasnt even old enough to drink but now its different. he's legal to everything now. now you see him differently. but listen to yourself when you feel something isnt right. dont break up with him but dont get married just yet. wait it out and see what happens. maybe once hes turned 21 and everything goes well you wont feel the same way. but then your inner self could be preparing you for something so just keep your eyes open for any suprises
2006-12-19 17:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would take a step back. If you are not of age yet to drink, the bar scene is a whole new story book. I know from experience. the women in most bars i went into, will flock to any new meat they see, wether they are married or not. and being he has not been into a bar yet, he will see all this going on and he might like the attention from other women, i don't know that for sure, but there is alot of eye candy to look at. women in bars might as well not wear anything for clothing if you ask me. i always go by gut feelings, so if you are uncomfortable with anything talk to him about it, an open relationship will last for a life time.
2006-12-19 17:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by fruitloop247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH, but mostly being naive, just like Obama, himself. I am not criticizing Obama, but merely stating a fact. He is just too green to be the President of the US. Give him a few more years and let's see what he has to offer then. By then, we will know more about this unknown person. Hillary never was an option. McCain 08-The Candidate of Experience
2016-05-22 23:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust him until he gives you a reason not to. Now if he gets drunk the first time he goes out drinking you probably shouldn't get mad. I say this because if it is his first time drinking he won't know his limit. If he gets drunk too many times after that and claims he wasn't trying to, that's when you need to sit down and have a talk.
2006-12-19 18:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady404 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone experiences different things. I'm sure that going out and getting pissy drunk will be fairly amusing to him for the first 5 months after his b-day, but the novelty will wear off, trust me. But that doesn't mean he'll change into a totally different person. Don't worry about it, you both will be fine.
2006-12-19 17:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married yet wait and see how he acts in 6 months or so just to be on the safe side and hopefully by then you will feel comfortable and know if thats the way that he is going to turn out.
2006-12-19 17:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem 1: He is 21 and talking about marriage.
2006-12-19 17:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha to tell you the truth u are in the same situation as me.. my fiance just turned 21 and he used to party and drink alot, and i hated it.. he stopped for the longest time, but now that he has turned 21 my mind has changed about everything... u should really watch out because its easy to say someting and do something else... good luck with everything, and one thing... listin to ur heart not the back of ur head, because ur head will play games with you... but not ur heart!! well good luck and i hope everything works out okay
2006-12-19 17:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Tonella's Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your saying he hasn't drank before because of the legality of it? If so he probably won't drink much at this stage because of his personality. Do not worry. In fact if you make it a big deal it may become one.
2006-12-19 17:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nojunk N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so bad about a 21 year old drinking? He's going to drink, and probably drink heavily. If he says he's not he's lying to you. So either break it off or accept him for who he is.
2006-12-19 17:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋