Help me out here. I am in a relationship with a guy who has been ok with me but I think that our relationship isnt really going anywhere. I have problems in the sex department with my guy being a little too under endowed to really satisfy me. Now I have had a fling with this guy who is not doing too well inlife but is amazing in the sack. I am obsessed with every inch of him and we really gel well in bed. What to do? Should I try and work out my relationship with my little guy or do I just call it quits and stick with King kong?
2006-12-19 17:25:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a relationship is not sex. its not about who is bigger and better. if guy 2 isnt doing well in life then you wont be either. you need someone who is able to take care of himself or you two will live like that for a long time. i dont think you should work out your relationship because all you want is good sex. you dont want anything serious. just a good lay. you can do that with any guy with out a commitment. dont go hurting guys who care about you because they arent big enough
2006-12-19 17:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, some people say that sex isn't important...I don't think it's true. In any relationship eventually the drive of love changes and good sex does keep things together. If you really like the first guy, try being creative and teach him. I know it's not easy to, espacially if you are shy... but it is important that you try or you will end up frustrating youself. And you'd probably having to imagine yourself with someone else when doing it with him. Let him know what is important to you or what is lacking in the sex. If he doesn't want to learn to please you than he is being selfish. You don't want to be with a guy like that. I can't say who you should choose. Even if you stay with the first guy and king kong is no longer around, you may end up being deprived and look for other men. That will be even worst as you may end up being unfaithful. Once you tried the good stuff and you know it's out there, you'll keep looking to satisfy your desire. If you be wiith king kong then it would be for the sex alone. And as you said, as king kong isn't doing too well......Well girl, that will pose a problem eventually. Sex is important, yes but so is security. Maybe both of them is not for you......Just wait for the right guy to come.... You shouldn't rush in a relationship just for the sex. There's other fishes in the sea.
2006-12-20 01:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few factors that are very important here. It depends on how old you are? If you think that the your relationship isn't going anywhere, break up with him without hurting his feelings. The sex with King Kong might be delicious, but you should analyze your future with him. You should make sure you are compatible with him outside of the bedroom even though he is struggling right now.
Unfortunately if you stay with the guy that's under endowed, you'll find yourself always having a fling periodically. Make sure you protect yourself sexually if you do.
2006-12-20 01:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is the most important thing to you then stick with guy number 2. If you are looking for a real connection and relationship, pick guy number 1. Remember, looks fade and so does the sex drive once you officially get with someone.
2006-12-20 01:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your relationship. Your "little guy," as you call him, always has the potential to grow. It all depends on what YOU do. Here's why:
I once dated someone who measured at 6 inches, exactly. When we broke up, we measured 8 and a half.
I'm with someone now who, when we started, was seven inches. Now he's about 8 and three-quarters.
Improve his circulation, and trust me, you'll be satisfied.
Buena suerte!
2006-12-20 01:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by rayediance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with both of them is going nowhere. Dump both and find someone else. Next time, stick with just one person and don't cheat. If that person doesn't work out or the relationship is going nowhere in a reasonable amount of time, dump him and keep doing that until you find someone who IS taking the relationship somewhere good.
2006-12-20 01:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think your relationship with the first guy isn't working out,then maybe you should break up. never give a guy false hopes.never beat around the bush.just spit it out "i wanna break up".try to explain why.if he doesn't understand,just tell him he'll be better off with another woman. just follow your heart.if you really like the 2nd guy,then stick with him.
hope this helps:)
2006-12-20 01:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by silverwater92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick wit king kong because a big part of ur relationship is sex.
2006-12-20 01:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by chancey w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to work it out. Trust me I made the mistake of leaving a guy well off in life for a guy well in his pants and I am regreting it every day of my life. Please dont make the same mistake.
2006-12-20 02:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't play the "two at a time" game.
So I can't help you out, sorry. Best of luck to you though, follow your heart
2006-12-20 01:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋