How do I go on loveing someone when I know that I love them with my heart and soul but he is with another women. He has been w/ her 4 2 months now. He was here for visitation with my son and **** just happened, he was flirting with me and then kissed me, then he told me I love you and all this stuff about missing me and wanting me back for me not my son, well after that we made love and ****. My menstration was just ending we had sex unprotected like usual and is it possible that I could be pregnant? The next day he was supposed to break up with her but they talked and he knows how she feels now supposedly, I feel like I was used. Do you think it is time for me to move on? Do you think that he still loves me? The girl he is with was his first love they were on and off for like 2 months here and there 5 years ago. Me n him were 2gether for 3 years we have a kid together in a way. What should I do? Should I tell him he needs to figure out who he loves and who he is in love wit?
2006-12-19 17:21:48 · 10 answers · asked by livinlife06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He looks at me still like I am the world to him like most men do. I feel as if he is still in love with me but not sure that we are going to work or afraid to settle down. He purposed to me in august n broke up with me 2 months later could that be it?
2006-12-19 17:23:04 · update #1
He told her about sleeping with him and she still stayed with him. so you knwo that also. I think that she is going to hurt him and I dont know how to stop it all though I would like him to feel the pain that both me and this girl are feeling!
2006-12-19 17:37:36 · update #2
i think that this man needs to get his **** striaght bcuz he is playin with peoples hearts like they were his toys.........you need to tell him to make up his mind.........if he decides he loves you take things slow make him prove himself it's not worth going through another heartbreak........
2006-12-19 17:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by jamie_lynn_1109 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who has to ask if they might be pregnant is not mature enough to have sex (especially one who has sex unprotected "as usual")... sorry, but that is the reality.
You are having sex with a guy who is seeing someone else. The fact is that you should have enough confidence in yourself to reject any advances he makes until he has the integrity and maturity to be available to do so.
ALSO.. having sex with a guy will not gain their love nor their respect. How about if you work on the respect FIRST?
What you should tell him is the truth: that you made a serious error in judgement when you had sex with him.. that you want a guy that is mature and has the integrity to make a choice and stick with it.
I don't mean to sound harsh because I know what you are going through but maybe you need a wake-up call. You say you have sex unprotected "as usual" but do you realize that if he's cheating on her, he may be cheating with many others? Pregnancy could be the LEAST of your problems. No guy is worth what you are doing to your life by making such serious mistakes.
I wish you well and I hope you will think about yourself and your life as well as the life of the child you already have.
2006-12-20 01:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to break this to you but all he wants is sex. Right now he gets to have both you and the other girl. If he loved you or her then he wouldnt sleep with both of you and tell both of you that he has feelings for you. He is thinking with his peni* and not with his head or heart. He will continue to say all the things that you want to hear as long as he has sex with you at the end. Dont let him use you, you are better then that! Move on and let him go. There is plenty of other men that will love to treat you good.
2006-12-20 01:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?!!
Wise up and move on! When a person really loves someone they don't jerk them around this way! You need to have some self-respect and show him that you deserve better than that. Flirting with you and kissing you while he's with someone else is not just disrespectful to the other girl but disrespectful TO YOU! He wants it both ways and you've already given him permission to play you by having sex with him w/o him giving up the other girl.
I mean, why SHOULD he break up with the other chick? you're gonna give it up to him anyway!
Oh, and if you had sex AFTER your period you really shouldn't have to worry because you ovulate BEFORE your period. Your body had just gotten rid of the egg before you had sex with him and you won't release another for a couple of weeks.
2006-12-20 01:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very indecisive man in your way of happiness. He is causing great pain in a really bad way... get rid of him. He should know what he wants at this point, child and all. Move on, clear your mind. You don't want to be left behind or picking up the pieces. There are so many wonderful things in life better than his mess. Make the most out of your life, with him if he choses, but also without him if he lags behind. Don't let him be the boss of you. You know that love is blind, love is generous and love is true. Allow yourself to see the true generosity of love. It takes two to make a relationship work, not one. Believe you've got great aspirations waiting ahead of you.
2006-12-20 01:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it sounds like he is playing games and is enjoying the fact that you are both letting him. I was in the same situation as you! He was with his wife who was pregnant but he was coming around telling me he was going to tell her about us after the divorce. But she found out before the divorce and i felt like he only stayed with me because she left him. Then we had kids and were together for 3 years. After we split up he got back with his wife before me. The whole time he was with her he kept telling me he didn't love her and was still in love with me. But he would never leave her, but he came around and told me what i wanted to hear and had sex with me. Finally i told him to choose and when he couldn't I told him to leave me alone and I didn't ever want to get back with him. I have been happy ever since. He isn't able to play games with my heart and I was able to move on to a man that loves me unconditionally and is a good father for my kids!!!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-20 02:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET GO OR FALL DOWN
you have to let go and move on. you have a life and a son to think about...
try to look for some other guys too who will love you and your son. its not enough to just hear the words "I love you". he should be man enough to mean every words he speaks. coz if he cant possiblity is that he might be just using you.
2006-12-20 01:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if you r preganet yall are going to have to tell the girl and you need to tell him you are not a part time lover just because you gave it to him in the past dont mean he owns it
2006-12-20 01:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another man to be your husband.
2006-12-20 01:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you forget about him and pray to God for guidance. God is the only one who can help you.
God bless.
2006-12-20 01:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋