I'm almost 18 and I'm tired of my parents being over-protective and not letting me hang out with guys alone, date guys, or even let them come over my house. My parents are Persian and it seems to be a cultural issue. They claim never to have dated and seem like they have no idea how important this is to me. I've tried to talk to them about it before but they say I can never have a boyfriend or go on dates. .. that I'm too young. I'm 17 and a half. Sorry I could keep ranting but please....help!
2006-12-19 17:02:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your parents probably never dated because their marriage was arranged by their parents, a fairly typical Persian custom. But being raised in America, you have a different cultural influence, so naturally having an arranged marriage seems ridiculous. I had Persian friends in high school who said they had a "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" in another country. In reality, their parents had arranged for them to be married. My friends did NOT end up marrying these people. If you can go out with a mixed (co-ed) group of friends and end up hanging out with a guy, then you've got it made. By all means go away for college. I assume you're graduating in June. When you are on your own, you can make your own dating choices. Just start with a few coffee-in-the-afternoon dates to get the hang of having a date-like converation with guys, and before you know it, you'll be ordering lobster like a pro!!
2006-12-19 17:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to them doesnt work then try writing them a letter. I did this when I was 17 and it worked. Basically you need to let them know that you are going to be 18 soon and then legally you will be an adult and you can do whatever you want. They cant protect you forever. You need to be able to date. Every girl needs to have the right to date, its part of life. Let them know that you appreciate there love and protection, but you really want to date and they are hurting you by not letting you go. Make them understand that you are about to be 18 and then you will make your own choices.
2006-12-19 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're almost an adult right? You dont have much time anyway. My little sister is the same age and facing the same issue (except her dad is CRAZY). Just wait it out, you'll be okay. They're your parents and trying to protect you. You actually may thank them one day. Maybe if you could date now then you wouldnt meet the certain guy that you are eventually meant to marry.
2006-12-19 17:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parent were very strict and i had a similar situation. looking back im kind of glad they did it to some extent--prevented me from dating a bunch of losers. If you want to be seen as an adult to them you should start taking on responsibilities like a job, paying your own cell phone bill, buying a car on your own...things like that. Once you become more independent from them they will have less of a say in what you do. Thats basically what i did, and a lot of arguing but eventually I gained my "freedom". Oh, and don't tell them your "17 and a half"---shows your age having to add the half.
2006-12-19 17:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by c m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bunch of girlfriends to come over to your house and make out with them and have your parents catch u guys doing it.
then, blame it on the fact that they dont let u date guys. So, now u think that u like girls.
I know, sounds dirty.
i hey, life's too short to not share it with someone u love.
2006-12-19 17:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by roberto3331 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a little more, maybe you are a little passionate and maybe your parents know something you do not.I know you are grown up and understand but there are many thing that they know by experiences that you haven't had.
I am 28 right now but I just recently realized some facts about life.
Piruz Bashi
2006-12-22 01:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ormoz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are almost an adult, and most people in the US start dating in the ages 13-16...
2006-12-19 17:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Zach S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha...just date if u want. but, dont tell your parents. and then tell your boyfriend about that, let him keep secret~ ^.^
i had same situation as u when i was 16, i used my way...and my parents even didnt know today i had a boyfriend when i was 16.
2006-12-19 17:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by becky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeahhhhh very weird....... date in secret ... lie to them if you need to ..... just say that you are going with your other friends....cuz your definatly old enought to date.... especially if your are asked out and somebody likes you and you like them..... i say date secretly..... and if your relationship will get better and serious maybe then introduce him.. see what happens... if that doesn't work... maybe consider moving out
2006-12-19 17:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋