My high school sweetheart and I were a hot item for about five years (teenage), we worked together,went to school together, church, etc. We were really close, in love and couldn't wait to get married.
Well, for whatever reasons, she decided that "we" should start seeing other people, and I took it really hard. She was seeing other guys and still stringing me along. She turned 18 and moved in with her soon to be husband. Over the next 8 yrs she got married, had 2 kids, got he PHD, and her life is great, But she still calls me.
She calls me from time to time and wants to meet me sometimes even though she broke up with me 12 yrs ago. I never call her or ask her to meet me. She even invited me over to her house several times, and i did go. She invited me to go on several of her buisness trips, but I declined. I even helped pick out her counter tops when her house was being built.
But, she has never once touched me. Not since She broke up with me 12 yrs ago. What does she want????
2006-12-19 16:28:24 · 14 answers · asked by TIM D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
either a toy, or friendship.
2006-12-19 16:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is looking for better time like she had as a teenager and the good times she had with you?
Maybe her marriage is not the best thing still see some of my old girlfriends from high school and it has been over 30 years.
2006-12-20 00:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by david o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she has a lot of unresolved feelings for you. Be very careful because if her husband were to find out these things it could possibly lead you i nto a pretty nasty mess. She should definitely not be asking you on business trips with her because that suggests that she might want something more than just friendship. If this keeps up I would definitely just have to ask her where her head is at and find out just what is going on with her.
2006-12-20 00:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want you to go on a business trip with her? Everything else sounds find except for that. Maybe she's looking for something on the side, if you know what I mean. If you don't feel comfortable being in contact with her then just cut her off. If you don't want that then ask her what she wants from this situation. Good luck and don't be tempted into something that you don't want.
2006-12-20 00:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still has a deep love you for you, but she realizes that she loves her life now, too. It's hard getting over someone like that, and she may be scared to let you go...or she just needs to know you don't want to let her go. If it's not hurting anything, I'd say go on and keep up this friendship, but if it's too difficult for you or you notice it's straining her marriage, have a serious heart-to-heart with her. Or better yet...ask her what she wants and get it straight from her.
2006-12-20 00:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Suse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to be friends. You guys grew up together.
On the other hand, she could be wanted that unadulterated admiration from you that she received when you where kids in highschool, because her husband doesn't do that.
Many people believe that women and men cannot really ever be just friends.
Be careful. The invite on her business trip sounds sketchy.
2006-12-20 00:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Robyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know what she wants. It sounds like she never got over you but wants her cake and eat it too but wants you to make the first move. the business trip is a clear statement. Ask her if her husband knows she inviting you and if he doesn't you definitely have your answer.
2006-12-20 00:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well met and ask her what she wants we all know that you still love her deeply wwhen you meet ask her what she wants from you and tell her what is bothering you because you two where close friends sometimes one of the two will have resentment towords the other for a long time you need to step up and just be her friend that what she needs she don't need a lover she has one
2006-12-20 00:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by davermon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though as you have said that you guys were extremely close, and even though she moved on and got married your relationship still means alot to her, and even though your relationship can not be an intimate one, being her best companion is the closest thing she can have of you.
2006-12-20 00:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she made a mistake of leaving u and dont know how to tell u.she still loves u and given the chance,she will like to come back to u.for now she just want u to ''stuff her turkey'' once awhile but dont do it.she's someone's wife.
2006-12-20 00:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ben S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she miss you and somehow feel guilty about the break up.. she's just trying to be a good friend to you and trying her best to get a good talk with you..
the kind of relationship that you had way back in your teens is not easy to forget.. just be good to her to lessen her guilt feelings..
2006-12-20 00:40:43 · answer #11 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋