how to get over depression when ur GF leaves u?

Question

hi people, well my girlfriend just left me for some otha guy, and i feel heaps heaps depressed, i know lots of people being dumped and they get over it really quick, but i really did love her, i loved her so much that when she left me i could feel tears coming out of my eyes, i havnt ate anything straight for 4 days, and its really painful to think about it, i did so much for her and she ends up leaving me without a proper excuse, she just said " i dunt like you anymore " .. im even ready to suicide for this woman, i dont think i can find someone else in my life, as iam an Asian guy no1 likes me, i got rejected so many times in life, when i finally met her i thought i found my soul mate, i even made a video for her on youtube..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DnQ2eio2luI

i started to go on a hunger strike when she left me, i feel hungry but i cant eat, im really close to suiciding right now, as she wont evan talk to me, i dont know wut to do, can someone help me? thanx

Answer 1

Dude, sorry to hear about what happened but i have been in your shoes. I'm sure you have heard the cliche that time heals all wounds. It really does. Even though there are times that you feel that you can't go on, know that things will get better. But you have to learn to love yourself, and the first step is taking care of yourself and your health by eating. It might be necessary for you to reach out for professional help to help you process the overwhelm thoughts and emotions that you are going through. And it's okay to do that, in fact that's one other way to show that you are taking care of yourself. Trust and believe that things will get better whatever the outcome and hang in there, okay?!

Answer 2

Dude. I am going through the same thing man. You have to be strong and optomistic. Its been three weeks since my girl friend left me and it really does get better every day. I know it just happend and it feels like you can't live with out her. I was with my girl for six years man. I really do know what you are going through. Trust me the first week is the worst. you just have to give things time. I know it is easier said than done. after three weeks I still think about it all day. But you will soon realize that there are better things for you out there. Like my sister said the world is a big place. Make sure you surround your self with people you trust and love. Your family and friends need to know what you are going through so they can help you. Remember that every time a door closes another door opens. Try to spin this in a possitve way. Try to make the best out of it. I know its hard but try to see the good things. I started to see that in a way it was good that she left me. I will have more time for school and work. I can take on new hobbies, I can save some money and use it for things that help me not her. You don't have to pay for dinner or presents. You can now talk to other girls. You can spend more time with friends. You don't have to tell any one where you are or who your with. your free man. Look at all the good things. And give your self time. Trust me every day that goes by will get better. In a few months you and me will probably still remeber these girls, but we will probably be a lot better off and we will have more things going for us.

Answer 3

Okay, is it really worth hurting yourself?

No.

You might have been the right guy for her, but she was not the right girl for you. You loved her, but she didn't love you and she left. Unconditional love would be you letting her go and hoping that she finds happiness with someone else.

But you are far from a happy place, and it will probably take a long time for you to get out of where you are.

She started being with you for a reason, so try and remember the good things about yourself.

Remember the things you used to do that you like, and do them again to distract yourself.

Once you start being happy again, other people will notice you and want to hang out with you, and you might find someone else that wants to be with you.

Answer 4

OK doing something stupid sure isn't going to get her back. Suicide? Hunger strike? That's pathetic. What I would do is get a bunch of pictures of different women. Put these pictures in an envelope and a note that reads: " I cannot remember what you look like. Would you take the picture that is of you and please return the others back to me. " Then mail this envelope to her. It's an oldie but a goodie. You need to be a man, sack up and realize that it is HER loss. She will eventually do the same thing to this other guy. When she does, and she will, and she comes back to you, which she will, I hope you tell her to get lost.

Answer 5

I am not trying to sound like a cliche here but you will find the right person for you. If she left you the is was Not and i repeat NOT meant to be. You deserve so much better! Just because she decided to give you a chance and date you does not mean she is the only one for you! Please do not commit suicide! It is not worth it to do it over someone that leaves you because if you do then you will just be gone. It solves nothing. My cousin did that over a guy and I miss her so much everyday. I know people will be so devastated if you did that. Things will get better I promise! Just keep doing your day to day routine! Time will heal, but to be honest you will never forget her because you did Love her!

Answer 6

As some one who recently has been through this, trust me. You'll be okay. My ex left me after 4 1/2 years of living together. He was going to be the man I was going to marry. When he left, it was like I died. I eventually remembered he was a part of my life, not all of it. I do recommend seeking some medical help, including counceling. There's no shame in needing a helping hand.

Answer 7

I bet you are asian. Dude, life isnt about girls. Being obsessed over one person is seriously not a good thing anyway. To be honest, she's not that great looking. Get out of your little corner. There's so much more in this world. It may feel like the end of the world right now, but later when you look back, it'll look very silly.yea so.. move on

btw, by all means, do NOT get into a platonic relationship. just end it. its over. I am sure you'll find someone better

Answer 8

I saw your video. Its good and sweet. You need to stop being helpless - You are a guy - and you need to have some balls. You are young - but this is a lesson - ACT LIKE A MAN! It takes time to get over hurt - but it will happen. When you finally get into college you will find there are a lot of girls and you have a LOT to look forward to.
Start eating, stop whining, go skating or goto baskketball games or something with lots of people and have some FUN! Believe me you are going to have a lot of heart breaks. Thats part of growing up. But thats how you get to the right person.

Answer 9

Be realistic and move on. There are millions of girls out there.

You'll be bothered for a while, but don't get hung up with it for too long.

If you can't eat, drink gatorade or power aid, your body needs energy.

Again, face the fact, there are more important things to hype than a girl--who dumped you--and Fiona is not cute, sorry!

Answer 10

Hey,

Please don't kill yourself. Anyone that can leave does'nt deserve you,there's someone out there for everyone and maybe when your older you'll find that special girl who will love you forever, and who knows maybe your ex will realize she made a dumb move and come back but in the meantime eat and keep yourself up because "you" come first right now.


take care of yourself