My parents (Mom & Stepdad) are fighting right now and im scared because whenever my stepdad gets drunk (which he is now) he always try to beat me up and he is a pretty big guy. Im really scared this time because if he hits my mom she will be seriously hurt because she just had back surgery. WIth me im kind of a wuss and im scared to stand up to him because I dont wanna get beat up. Im tired of him hurting us but if we dont live with him we dont have a place to go. What should I do to make us all get along?
2006-12-19 16:23:40 · 12 answers · asked by dynasty_v2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dial 911
2006-12-19 16:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand up to him and when he beats you up call the police and file child abuse charges on him. Some people just become violent drunks and there is nothing really that you can do to prevent or stop the situation besides leaving. The sad truth is that if your mom doesn't leave him the violence can and probably will become A LOT worse than just him beating the two of you. When he is not around, look up a woman on the internet named Yvette Cade and let your mom read what her husband did to her.It might help give your mom the push to leave her husband.
2006-12-19 16:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by kittysoma27 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your stepdad's behavior at all. You and your mom do need to leave as soon as possible before something bad happens and before someone gets really hurt. Do what you need to do to get out of that house. If you have to, go to a neighbors house to call the police or if you can't do that, get to the nearest pay phone and call them from there.
Your step father is being physically abusive to not only your mother but you as well. I really don't blame you for not wanting to get hurt at all so really you and your mom need to get out of there ASAP. Go to a family members house if you need to or a womens shelter. Neither one of you should ever have to put up with this kind of abuse.
2006-12-19 17:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has actually 'beat' on you and your mom, you can press charges against him, by calling 911, especially if you are that scared.
Does your mom want to get away from him?
Is she afraid of him also?
If he has hit your mom before, and you've witnessed it, then I would definately get help, try a womans shelter..
You should have a place called 'Human Resources' in your town, most towns do, and they can help you and your mom.
But if I were you, I wouldn't hesitate calling the police, and if
he's drunk when they get there that will be an added plus for you and your mom.
PLEASE get away from him as soon as you can before something really bad happens..
Your poor mom is in no shape to have to deal with so much stress from a drunken husband. And it's not fair for you to have such fear of a parent. (even a 'step' parent)
2006-12-19 16:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a Wuss!!!! This is a drunk man trying to physically harm you. That is a serious issue. You need to talk to a councelor or someone who can help you. Maybe another trustworthy family member? You have the right to be safe in your own home. If nothing can be done, try to live with your dad, grandparents, uncles, or anyone with whom you feel safe and loved. You and your mom deserve better, but if she is blinded by love to and cannot ensure her own child's safety, you need to find help. Abuse is never OK.
Please talk to someone.
2006-12-19 16:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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ok.. well first of all know that this isnt your falt and theres nothing you can personaly do to stop his violent behaviour.. he is who he is and he needs help.
secound of all there is always somewhere else to go, even if it means staying at the y or a relative for a while.. or even your friends house.. you should not feel afraid expecialy in the holidays that your goint to be hurt..
if your mom trys to stay which she may because women who are abused often feel they need the men more then they do . due to there fear of being alone, or being hurt.. or being chased.. tell her your going to call the police and tell them whats been going on.. they will help you..
what hes doing is illegal and you have the power and the strength to stop it you are not a wuss.. you can do this.. i know you can
good luck..
god bless
have a merry xmas
2006-12-19 16:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately its not you that needs to bring the family together...its your parents. I know you feel helpless in those situations. And maybe your family j ust needs to sit down and just talk about whats bothering you. You shouldn't have to be afraid of anyone. And if he does physically harm you, then there are institutions that will help you!
2006-12-19 16:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out. say goodbye.the same thing happened to me when i was a child but i stayed too long. as a result it has affected me all my life. i am now 70 but it still haunts me.
the longer you stay the worse it will get both now and for you in the future
2006-12-19 16:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crystal and Katie R. are 'right-on'. Please do NOT confront him, You would be physically hurt. Please tell your teacher and school counselor and ask for help.
This is NOT your fault. You are NOT responsible for the trouble. Thousands of us care about YOU. You are not alone in this. Please, ask for help. If your school counselor does not do something for you, don't stop there. You are smart enough to look in the telephone book, usually in the front page or second page, and find phone numbers for 'abuse' or 'help' lines. DO IT!!!
Again, we care about YOU..You are NOT alone.
2006-12-20 06:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by intrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this dude. I think you really need to stand up for your mom. She's your mom you know she needs protection.
2006-12-19 16:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by DeadmanWalks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋