I have a huge crush on one of my co-workers. We are best friends. I feel like we are soul mates. He has a girlfriend, but he did not tell me, I figured it out on my own 6 months after we became friends. I asked him about it and he said that things are rocky between them but he has not broken it off with her. What do I do. Do I go for it, or stay away. This has been going on for a year. I don't want to be a scandalous hoe but I think I'm in love.
We have not crossed the line but there is a lot of sexual tension. What do I do?
2006-12-19 16:15:11 · 15 answers · asked by HappyDaisy23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If things have been "rocky" for a while take the hint and move on.
2006-12-19 16:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by shadouse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him, at least for now. Being the factor that breaks up a relationship will cause drama at the least, and at the most, a possible resentment towards you further down the line.
Furthermore, I would question the guy's honesty if he went 6 months without even mentioning his relationship to you, especially since you are friends. If you were in her position, how would that make you feel about him? I'd be wary.
2006-12-20 00:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Frenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say don't cross the friendship line until he breaks things off completely with his current girlfriend. You don't want to be "the other woman".
If you must, you could tell him how you feel about him. But set your limits and stand firm; make it clear that you won't be romantically involved with him as long as he is in a relationship with someone else.
If you don't stand firm with that, he will lose respect for you. And I think you might lose respect for yourself as well, for being the other woman, and for allowing him to get with you when he also has someone else.
You want all his love and attention on YOU! You don't want to have to share that with his current girlfriend. And until he breaks things off with her, you WILL be sharing him with his real girlfriend.
2006-12-20 00:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Katie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until he breaks it off with his girlfriend. If you care about him the way you say you do, don't you want to start a relationship the right way? If you break up their relationship you will just be his rebound person.
2006-12-20 00:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you would not mind being a scandalous hoe. but i'd say stay clear for now untill he brakes up
2006-12-20 00:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual tension and love are two completely different ideas.
2006-12-20 00:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Synth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As tempting as it may be do not go for it. Dating a co-worker has DISASTER written all over it. Never date someone you work with. EVER!!!
2006-12-20 00:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait untill you no for sure that he has broke it off wiht her you woldnt want another woman doing this to you would you and its ok ta feel like you do just let him not that its not gonna go any where untill its over with his gf
2006-12-20 00:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by jeannie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah don't interfere.... wait until he beaks up with his g/f... if he breaks up.
What you could do, in order to get his attention to you, invite him for coffee, or lunch together as friends and co-workers and just talk about random things... he will get to know you better and might get interested in you.... and have second thoughts about his current g/f... and you might also find more about him.... i dunno maybe you will find out that he is not the one... maybe the opposite... good luck
2006-12-20 00:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like my daddy always said a rooster in the hen house but don't let ma find out now.
2006-12-20 00:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋