Well See Im 17 and i have a 3 year old son that is the light of my life , and ive come into alot of money and am buying him stuff like crazy and my mom says im spoiling him, i really dont think i am because ive never had this much money to give him things like this before.. so am i?
2006-12-19 15:54:05 · 19 answers · asked by Xx Slit Wrists & Sorry Notes xX 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Mmmm...
You may be a lil' bit..
he's not used to getting all this stuff
and then when all of sudden you stop giving stuff to him he might throw a fit
Ex.- If you get low on money,your son will still be expecting you to get him stuff and if you don't.. well yea.. xD
Hope that helped!
2006-12-19 15:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by sampoochgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about. I am 20 have a 2 1\2 yr old daughter i like to spoil her as well, but there is spoiling and knowing when to stop. They don't need everything. yes it is tempting to buy them everything i know. But spoiling them too much is a bad thing. Once you decide not to buy them anything anymore they will soon throw a tantrum. Its not about having so much money. Its about getting them the necessities and maybe spoiling them on the side. The money you are getting can come in handy for a bank account. He will be rich by the time he turns 18, his education. Don't be too greedy with spoiling him you have the rest of life to do that.
2006-12-19 22:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good possiblity. I know you want to give your son all the things he wants and all the things you never had, but you have got to draw the line somewhere. Kids like adults love to get the things they want but you have to do what is best for your child. Instead of buying him all this stuff, put the money in savings for him so he can have it later. You will be more happy at watching his money grow than you are spending money on stuff he doens't need when he already has everything.
2006-12-20 04:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The absolute best "thing" you can do for your son is to love him. Material things are temporary, and this - of buying things to show love - will eventually be teaching him a lesson that you probably aren't going to want to deal with later on. Spend time with him. Go on walks with him, and talk and talk to him (even at age 3). Get on the floor and draw pictures, make cookies (an lick the bowl) together, etc. Take a little bit of the money an use it here and there for a nice outing - and put the rest in a good interest yielding account....'cause there's schooling and after school activities and all sorts of things in his future. The most flattering and loving thing you can do for another human being (young or old) is listen & love them.... :)
2006-12-19 23:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be better off using the money towards a fund for his schooling and education. Kids grow out of toys sooo quickly and 3 year olds don't really need that much. If it's a large amount of money why not buy an investment property so at least you are making money from your money that can be used later.
2006-12-19 16:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 22 year old dad with 2 kids and a 3rd one on the way and from expirence save your money. There are going to be many other chances for you to spend that money on your kid. I to came into money not to long ago and we spent it on our kids. It seemed like a good idea at the time but if you think about it is 6 months he will have grown out of them. Buy items little by little and keep him happy but dont smother him in gifts because as others have said he will expect it from her on out. which might cause problems in the future.
2006-12-22 22:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by mega18_200321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that young of an age it can be spoiling for him. Because he is so young and can easily get used to receiving things or getting something everytime he goes to the store. I would be careful. I understand where you're coming from because I have spoiled my 5 year old and kinda wish I didn't because something is always expected on our trips out. Just be careful and don't do it too much, although we do get alot of joy as well in buying them things.
2006-12-19 16:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by pro2call10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to buy him nice things. But it would depend on what and how often you are buying him things if you are or are not spoiling him. New clothes, toys etc is nice, but if are buying him a real live horse because he asked for you, then ya you are spoiling him......Also it would be really nice to put some of that money in a saving account for his future rather than buy him a new complete wardrobe from Saks. A few nice things a month is great.
2006-12-19 16:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're spoiling your son. He doesn't know it yet but as soon as he realizes he can get things all the time, no matter his behavior he'll start throwing fits in the store and think that it's alright. I know from personal expierence, I have a 2 year old daughter that I gave everything to and now I have to reverse the process, and that is NOT easy. So my suggestion, just get him the essentials.
2006-12-19 16:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.He is three, so he is very apt to see this type of behavior as permanent.
You don't say how much money. "Alot" may only be a little compared to what older people with bills to pay would think. (me at 44).
Put the money into a savings account and leave it alone. You won't believe how quickly you can spend $10,000. oooh and how many friends you will have that NEED to borrow!
2006-12-19 16:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋