I was with my bf for 2 yrs, hes 23 and im 19, we were livin together for the last few months, away from parents. We were talkin bout our future together, where we gonna move to, kids the whole lot! then he goes home for a night to his parents place and comes back the next afternoon, really distant. We got into a fight and he ended it sayin he needs to be alone and that he 'cant' be with anyone right now. he said his parents arent happy about us,they dont like me cause im quiet and they thought it was rude! the thing is he never once let on to me that he was feeling like this and acted as usual around me. i love him so much and would do anything to have him back but he just says its how it has to be like someone is holding a gun to his head. im so messed up about it all i even took a heap of pills the other night, stupid i know but thats how depressed i am. i just dont understand how one day things can be fine or at least he can act like they are, then dump me!
2006-12-19 15:52:20 · 6 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
will he sit down and talk through it with you??? if not then you will have problems for the rest of your life --- he could be confused as well --- his parents have been working on him and its very difficult to say no to them at least until he really gets his own life
2006-12-19 15:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was just going along enjoying the relationship for what it was and when you had the conversation you forced him to think about the future and what that may hold for him. Sounds like he is scared. Communication and expectations are what ruin relationships most times. Talk to him, that is the most important. Find out what he was expecting out of the relationship with you. Tell him what you expect out of a long term relationship with him. If they are not the same then you two will have to come to some kinda of compromise to continue the relationship. If you cannot, then as much as it hurts it is time to move on and find someone that wants the same thing. Just remember if you ever expect certain things out of a relationship or person make sure to communicate that to him plainly and clearly to make sure this doesn't happen again. I feel bad for you and I hope that he gets over this case of jitters.
2006-12-19 17:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, your boyfriend is treating you in a really inconsiderate way. He may not mean to hurt you, but he's not trying very hard not to. You don't have to break up with him, but you should get away from him for a few days, at least. Go stay with someone you can trust, someone who will take you in and take care of you (your parents? A sibling? A girl friend?) Just having some stability and some kindness will give you a whole new perspective.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 15:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just had a major flash of reality, which scared the heck out of him. Give him time, be there when he needs to talk. Don't pressure him to talk, that's about the worse thing you could do. It may turn out that he's not the right guy. On the other hand, all this could allow you both to build a stronger relationship!
Good luck...
2006-12-19 16:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT VERY NORMAL TO FEEL LIKE YOUR WHOLE WORLD HAS
BEEN TORN IN TWO. BUT DONT HIM OR ANY MAKE YOU
FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING DRASTIC, HE
NOT WORTH THIS, IF HE CAN STAND UP TO THE PLATE
THEN YOU DONT NEED.HIM. IF HE HAD ISSUS WITH YOU
THEN HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN A MAN. AND IF HIS
PARENTS HAVE PROBLEMS THEN THEY NEED TO TALK
TO YOU, HE SOUND LIKE SOMEONE THAT HAS THE
ISSUES, NOT YOU. SO JUST TAKE THIS ADVICE HE THE
ONE THAT LOST NOT YOU, AND DOWN THE ROAD HE
WILL SEE THAT HE LOST A GOOD THING. TRUST ME.
2006-12-19 15:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing get some counseling and let him go
2006-12-19 15:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by kelly r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋