My wife of soon 13 Yrs took her rings off because thay were to tight on her finger, and now that it's getting colder she doesn't want to put them back on. I am pissed because she said that the ring is a symbol and it's not the ring that says we're married but what's in the heart that counts. I think it's bullshit i believe it is a symbol that you are married and when you give a ring you are giving a part of yourself, and not wearing it makes me feel like that part of me is not there when i see an empty hand. Am I being silly or should you always wear you rings, ladies I need some help on this one.
Hreb Smith III
2006-12-19 15:52:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
See if you can take it to a jeweler's to have the ring resized to fit her.
Or if it bothers her fingers, she could wear it on a necklace.
Honestly, I don't think she means anything personal by taking it off. I am one of those people who can't wear jewelry for the life of me -- it itches and bothers me and seems to get in the way of everything! I looove how rings look, but I canNOT wear one. I just can't do it. It's like how some guys just can't stand wearing ties on their necks.
But if it's a real problem for you, get the ring resized so she can continue to wear it.
2006-12-19 15:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Katie C 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married for 13 years, it sounds like you two are in it for the long haul. If you really want her to wear a ring, buy her one for when her hands are swollen and another for when they are normal. My hands swells also and I gained weight. I had my rings stretched and when I lost weight, my rings got too big, so I could not wear the. My fingers broke out, but it didn't mean that a part of my husband was gone. I am married to my man whether I wear my rings or not. I really think you need to give your wife a break. If this is the only thing that worries you in your marriage, you are a very lucky man. Lighten up, the woman loves you.
2006-12-19 16:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well herb, i have only been engaged for four almost five months now but i know that i have not taken my engagement ring off since i got it. and once i am married i will not take it off or anything. it is a symbol of love, devotion and commitment and i could not imagine ever not wearing it. but if there is a problem with it and that is why your wife is not wearing it i suggest that you have it re-sized for her as a gift or something like that. i bet then it will go right back on her finger where i will stay. i know that that would be the first place i would go if my rings were ever to tight. i hope that helps, good luck.
2006-12-19 17:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Smith I agree with you totally, 100%. I am a woman who agrees that the ring is not what makes you married but the ring is a sign of respect and a symbol of your love and commitment to your spouse. As a woman, and as a wife, if my rings get to where they no longer fit the first stop I'm making is to the jewelers to get the sizing corrected. I never want the world to think I may be available, in my marriage there's no room for a door like that to be opened. Good luck and Merry CHRISTmas.
2006-12-19 16:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by red-e03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring is a symbol of your love. You dont have to wear a ring to be faithful, commited or married. If the rings are to tight have them resized, if they are no longer comfortable for her have them put into a different type of ring setting which will be comfortable for her. Do you wear your ring? I have a very lovely expensive engagement and wedding ring which I do not wear not just out of fear of losing it, being robbed for it, but because I worry it will get caught on something or could scratch our baby or my daughter it basically just got in the way. My husband owns his own construction company and on occassion he will actually go and help his employees work if they are behind on a project or he doenst have anything in the office to do and he takes his off for safety reasons. You are not apart of that ring if she lost it tomorrow you'd still be there, your in her heart thats the only place you need to be
2006-12-19 16:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe buy a claddagh ring or something that fits now. And get it in a high carat weight sometimes the metals mixed in with the gold or silver cause allergic reaction.
It is just a symbol and if you trust her it should not be that big a deal. But on the flip side since it does bother you she should at least consider your feelings. Talk to her about it in a non confrontational way. Maybe she just wants a new setting. I had the crown for my diamond replaced a few years ago because one of the prongs broke off.
2006-12-19 17:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married, but my bf of 2 years gave me a beautiful promise ring while he saves up money to buy me engagement and wedding rings. i won't leave the house if i don't have my ring on. i feel that it brings us closer. i heard one time that the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger of the left hand because there's something that connects that finger directly to the heart. a wedding ring is a symbol of love, committment, and friendship between the married couple. if her rings didn't fit she could've had them resized at the jewelry store. there's no excuse for her to not wear her rings unless she's got a job that they could get in the way. but if she's at home or just going out or anything like that there's no believeable excuse that she shouldn't wear them except that she doesn't want to wear them. i agree that the ring isn't what says you're married, the marriage certificate says that. but the ring is a symbol of the marriage. if she truly loves you and the marriage then she should wear the rings.
2006-12-19 15:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I took my wedding rings off because of swelling on my fingers, but i always put them back on. Suggest to her that the both of you go and take the rings to the jewellers to be resized see if that helps. If she says no then just tell her you want her to wear them and that you dont think its right that after 13 years of marriage that she go out without her rings on.
Good Luck!
2006-12-19 16:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by seashellshb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my rings when I was pregnant with my children. My husband was very kind and bought me a beautiful necklace to put my rings on so that I could still have them on me. I actually received many compliments from people saying that is was so sweet to not give up the rings completely. Try buying her a pretty necklace and put the rings on them for Christmas.
2006-12-19 22:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Hudson Valley Ceremonies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being silly but maybe you should say to her how much it hurts and leaves you feeling empty when you look at her naked hand. Let her know that when you bought the ring for her it was a symbol of your love to her and when she doesn't wear it you feel its because she isn't feeling like she did at the beginning and that it really bothers you...
2006-12-19 17:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋