He loves my daughter as if she was his, and does all that he is capable of, but they see the worst!
2006-12-19 15:51:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IT is said in the Bible that when you get married that your spouse should be number one under God. It also says that you should leave your family behind to live with your spouse. It doesn't say that you should just forget about your family and their feelings, it just means that your number one priority should be your husband, since when man and wife join together in marriage they become one.
Even if you don't go by the Bible, you should go by what is right. No parent should ever EVER make you choose between your spouse and them. Unless, he's abusive toward you or runs around on you. One of the reasons that I feel so strongly about this (other than it being in the Bible) is because I'm going through the same thing with my husband and in-laws. They don't think that I am good enough for their son. They don't think that I'm as sociable enough with their cliche and dress well enough (meaning I don't wear name brand clothes and stuff) etc... In their eyes, I'll just never be good enough for their son. Whenever there is an argument or ANYTHING they always try and get him to agree with them and turn against me. It just takes a toll on any marriage. In-laws just don't seem to know when to butt out. You've made your vows to him. You're parents should respect you, and not expect something so degrading of you.
2006-12-19 17:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by mommymommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is whether or not he's a good guy. Good to your daughter makes him a good guy but maybe not the right man for you.
I guess you need to decide if he's the one for you. If so, you must tell your parents that you will continue the relationship and that the decision to cut ties is theirs, not yours. In actuality, they cannot make you choose. You act and they must react. They are executing their choice.
If the marriage is healthy, I don't see why they would desire it be ended. Either this guy is a dirtball and you won't accept it, or they are unhealthily controlling. I suspect you know which one is true already......
2006-12-19 16:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your husband. Your parents should not put you through this. I went through it with my mom, and then she was such a b**** with me, telling me I was wrong and "brainwashed" and telling everyone she knew (who also knew me) that I was being abused by my husband, even calling the police and my boss at work.
If your parents are going this far, they don't care enough about you to let you be happy with your husband. Hopefully after you are out of the picture, they see the error of their ways, and come back and apologize and try to make amends between themselves and your husband.
best of luck, do not let them bully you! My one regret is not being firm with my mother and her inappropriate behavior. (she later came around, but it was a horrible process)
2006-12-19 16:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a horrible thing for parents to do. If they have truly put the ultimatum to you in those terms, choose your husband. Your parents will likely come around someday.
2006-12-19 15:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose ur husband! ur parents has had their life, and u should have yours! tell them i will never stop loving u guys, but i love my husband also, and that's who I'm going to be with, ask them what matters most u being happy are sad, and thinks for being concern about me, but if i ever need u are if hes not treating me right I'll let u know!!!!
2006-12-19 16:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably think that they have your best intentions at heart. But parents can be really meddlesome and its really not their place to say. If you are happy with your husband and he's good to your kid, then that's all that needs to happen. If your parents truly love you they will accept him because he makes you happy.
2006-12-19 15:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by chiseledsteel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents need to stay the hell out !! If you love this guy and believe in him then it's your business. What is the reason they hate him so much. What didn't you tell us??
All of you need to sit down and talk like adults.
merry xmas
2006-12-19 15:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be old and lonely if you listen to your parents. It's your life, you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions.
2006-12-19 16:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the two of you have a good marriage
the parents should stay out of it
you shouldn't have to choose
you need to be with you husband and children
they need to accept that or not see you
best of luck
2006-12-19 15:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would go with my spouse because if my family really loved me they wouldn't put me in that position and plus they already lived their lives and chose who was best for them i'm sure over anyones complaints or threats so don't worry they'll come around plus they'll always be your family and if you have a good spouse you got to hold on to him/her no matter what
2006-12-19 15:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by jerseyman34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋